Lady Gaga Says 'Divorce Is Not an Option': Too Traditional or True?

by The Big Question Posted 2012/08/14 21:19:46

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chamchamgal 2012/08/15 01:14:26

True

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Miss Kris 2012/09/02 09:01:02

True

It isn't an option for me, but it is for people who have been abused, cheated on, or something else dramatic. I do think people divorce far too much. And too many people get married without really knowing each other. Don't get married unless you pretty much know it is for keeps. Otherwise it's useless and just more drama and hurt than anyone needs.

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sonofason 2012/08/26 02:20:44
Paige 2012/08/20 03:08:44

Too Traditional

It would be nice if life was that easy but some circumtances warrant divorce.

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ConservativeMom 2012/08/17 02:32:56

Too Traditional

I applaud her commitment, but there are circumstances where divorce is the only option....unless you think death is better....

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Dynasty Fighter 2012/08/16 20:43:01

Too Traditional

life commitment

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brittany 2012/08/16 00:37:37

Too Traditional

its a cultural thing.

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ticia.barnes 2012/08/16 00:23:06

True

+3
If you go into marriage with the option of divorce on the table you will sure to end up getting one.

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EricVanSingleton 2012/08/15 21:45:40

Too Traditional

Divorce is a more difficult choice than one's choice to marry. There is so much more intellectual and emotional baggage to consider when acknowledging the mistake.

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Catnip 2012/08/15 21:31:54

True

+1
My wife and I have had our rough spots. But almost 24 years together, divorce is never an option.

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rcardon 2012/08/15 21:31:18

True

+2
When my wife and I got married, we both knew we would never get a divorce. Since then, we've dealt with things we never thought we'd have to deal with, and we've pulled through them, stronger, and closer.

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Iamfree 2012/08/15 20:55:44

True

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My husband and I made vows before God when we married. We agreed beforehand that divorce would not be an option for us. That agreement has gotten us over some rough patches, and we are closer than ever 27 years later.

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kioshi 2012/08/15 18:50:02

Too Traditional

youre not going to stick around just b/c you dnt believe in divorce. I think if it didnt work oh well find someone tht will

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Racefish 2012/08/15 17:22:44

True

+1
But there are circumstances where the necessity may arise.

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Peacock 2012/08/15 16:36:50

Too Traditional

I agree that marriage should be taken seriously, and if there are problems, the best solution if for the TWO people involved, to try to work them out and fix them. What I don't agree with, is the old saying "YOU MADE YOUR BED, YOU LAY IN IT". When one person either shuts you out, or shuts down, divorce IS an option. Certainly in cases of abuse, emotional and physical,divorce can save your sanity, perhaps save your life. Very individual choice..no one brush to paint this.

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Jean 2012/08/15 16:21:24

True

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I give the girl credit for this, or at least give her family credit for raising her with some values. Standards are hard to reach and maintain, but she's given herself one that is worth working toward.

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teamboobooseth 2012/08/15 14:21:42

Too Traditional

+1
What happens if they cheat on you multiple times. Or what if they beat you. What then.

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MlssCue =Go Blue= 2012/08/15 13:19:12

Too Traditional

It's a nice thought, a great thought, but it's not the way it is any more unfortunately. If two people can make it last that's wonderful.

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.: LiVi :. 2012/08/15 12:57:36

True

Except in some cases of course... I believe marriage is a life commitment, and should be taken lightly. Marry the right person, make an effort to always fix the relationship, and be accepting and forgiving of each other. If you still want divorce to be an optional escape when you are thinking of marrying someone, you are obviously marrying the wrong person.

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.: LiVi :. to .: LiVi :. 2012/08/15 12:58:16

should *Not be taken lightly

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Monkey D. Luffy 2012/08/15 10:32:17

True

+4
I'm pleasantly surprised at Lady Gaga for saying something like this :)

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Lady Whitewolf 2012/08/15 09:56:57

Too Traditional

+1
but her choice I guess.

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Angela Chambers 2012/08/15 06:08:02

True

+2
If it's broke, fix it, don't throw it away.

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Ev Rom 2012/08/15 05:17:07

Too Traditional

+1
this coming from a girl that comes out of an inflatable vagina?

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Jenn 2012/08/15 04:44:09 (edited)

True

+1
I used to love her music,but now I just ignore her..I cannot take her foul mouth..and the two go hand in hand now,I guess stardem does that to a person

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Centrist_Bill 2012/08/15 04:10:47

True

+1
Welcome to what Marriage SHOULD BE!!

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Saintsfan 2012/08/15 04:02:24

True

+1
All relationships take work. Obviously you don't stay in abusive relationships, but if the person is encouraging and supportive, but flawed people should try to work it out.

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laydeelapis 2012/08/15 03:57:32

Too Traditional

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Love her but it's weird putting Lady Gaga and "traditional" in the same sentence :s I think you should be so certain of the person by the time you marry them that divorce doesn't happen. But things change and people change and sometimes it is necessary. For example, if the person cheats, beats you, gets addicted to something. Basically if it's not a little issue and it's so major that it's detrimental to the relationship, there's no point in holding on.

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joewhite650 2012/08/15 03:40:05
Mrs. Kathy Arch 2012/08/15 03:37:04

True

+2
For better or worse!

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CatX3 2012/08/15 03:35:26

True

+1
Although , it really does matter what's happening in the marriage...

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Gabsters<3 2012/08/15 03:18:45

Too Traditional

+3
Over little stuff no, but if your in a abuse relationship or something then yes.....

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Gabsters<3 to Gabsters<3 2012/08/15 03:19:06

+1
-abusive

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LiberalCowards 2012/08/15 03:16:26

True

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I don't even understand the concept of "too traditional".... When did traditional become bad? We live in a world of selfish convenience. If a relationship becomes difficult, we abandon it, even if we have kids. It a pregnancy wasn't part of the plan, we abort it. We just screw kids whether they get born or not, don't we?

I think this is ironic in to context of "gay marriage" debates. You can may anyone or anything you want or as many as you want (as in polygamy....which will be the next "big thing" with liberals), but "Divorce is not an option.....too funny.

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laydeel... to Liberal... 2012/08/15 04:01:11

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Traditional isn't bad. But you don't have to be traditional to be good either.
But is having kids enough incentive to stay in the relationship. If your spouse becomes addicted or abusive, is it really selfish to want out of that relationship? Is it selfish to not want your kids subjected to that behaviour?

And what's wrong with marrying anyone you want or as many as you want? If everyone's consenting and it makes people happy, why should we try to deny people that happiness when the way they live their lives doesn't affect us in any way?

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Liberal... to laydeel... 2012/08/15 05:03:40 (edited)

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Why do people always use fringe examples to defend a position. 50% percent of marriages end in divorce. That's pathetic and it's certainly not because that many of them are the result of addicted or abusive spouses. I think that 1 in 5 of those divorces are due to addiction. It's like using the "rape example" to defend legalizing abortion.

Most people that get divorced (and abortions) are NOT victims. They just see those things as an easy out. Abuse is even more sketchy because so many people lie about it during messy divorces.

If your spouse is addicted and it's enough of a problem for you to leave, turn them in and you get a divorce. They are probably breaking SOME laws to support the addiction (illegal drugs, DUI).

If your spouse is abusing you, press charges and you get a divorce.

Everyone else can grow up and figure it out. The truth is that we've become a disposable society that has no concept of personal responsibility.

By the way, there is a LOT more domestic violence in the "LBGT" community than in the heterosexual community. Survey's show that same-sex cohabitants reported significantly more intimate partner violence than did opposite-sex cohabitants. Additionally, it is believe that the majority of abuse in same-sex relationships DOESN'T get reported because ...

Why do people always use fringe examples to defend a position. 50% percent of marriages end in divorce. That's pathetic and it's certainly not because that many of them are the result of addicted or abusive spouses. I think that 1 in 5 of those divorces are due to addiction. It's like using the "rape example" to defend legalizing abortion.

Most people that get divorced (and abortions) are NOT victims. They just see those things as an easy out. Abuse is even more sketchy because so many people lie about it during messy divorces.

If your spouse is addicted and it's enough of a problem for you to leave, turn them in and you get a divorce. They are probably breaking SOME laws to support the addiction (illegal drugs, DUI).

If your spouse is abusing you, press charges and you get a divorce.

Everyone else can grow up and figure it out. The truth is that we've become a disposable society that has no concept of personal responsibility.

By the way, there is a LOT more domestic violence in the "LBGT" community than in the heterosexual community. Survey's show that same-sex cohabitants reported significantly more intimate partner violence than did opposite-sex cohabitants. Additionally, it is believe that the majority of abuse in same-sex relationships DOESN'T get reported because the victims don't want ot be "outted". This tells me that same-sex marriage would send the divorce statistics through the roof. So, please don't tell me it's just about "loving couples".
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laydeel... to Liberal... 2012/08/15 05:09:16

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I understand that MOST of those cases are not drug or abuse related but some are and it's unfair to say anyone who gets a divorce is selfish if they're just trying to better a harmful situation.

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Liberal... to laydeel... 2012/09/05 17:27:51

Again, if the MAJORITY of the circumstances for divorce are related to harmful situations, then there is a bigger problem with the human race. Marriage is supposed to be a BIG deal, not something you do in Vegas over a drunken weekend. The problem is that we've become a commitment/responsibility adverse society EVERYTHING is disposable. We continually devalue marriage (and pregnancy) and the result is a society with no values.

Ya know, "Honor killing" is actually a natural extension of this. When your kid doesn't grow up the way you expected....get rid of them.

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laydeel... to Liberal... 2012/09/07 04:36:08

But isn't it a tad harsh to say divorce is absolutely not an option when it is necessary for some? And marriage isnt "supposed" to be anything. Who dictated that? It's like anything else: it's a big deal for some and not a big deal for others. It's not in any way directly linked to values unless you make it to be.

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Liberal... to laydeel... 2012/09/19 16:41:15 (edited)

I think you stumbled onto the core issue here.

There are some people who believe that Marriage is a VERY big deal and a VERY big commitment. Catholics, for example, see it as a religious sacriment and not a commitment to each other, but a commitment to God that they will stay committed to each other. It's the reason why they get married in a church with a priest. So, it's one thing to ditch your spouse and quite another to diss God. Because of this, they need to think long and hard before getting married.

There are others that see getting a pet or buying a house as a bigger commitment than getting married. Marriage is really not much more than an "intention" to not date other people. It's not a commitment, because they recognize lots of legitimate reasons to walk away.

My point in all of this is that if you can't go into a marriage with the mindset that it's forever and "for better or worse", then you aren't committed to the person, but rather are committed to the feeling that the relationship gives you today. It's like saying "I am committed to you as long as I continue to find you attractive, that you continue on your best behavior like when we dated, and all of the positive things about you." You're basically committing to the 1/2 of the person that you like.

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I think you stumbled onto the core issue here.

There are some people who believe that Marriage is a VERY big deal and a VERY big commitment. Catholics, for example, see it as a religious sacriment and not a commitment to each other, but a commitment to God that they will stay committed to each other. It's the reason why they get married in a church with a priest. So, it's one thing to ditch your spouse and quite another to diss God. Because of this, they need to think long and hard before getting married.

There are others that see getting a pet or buying a house as a bigger commitment than getting married. Marriage is really not much more than an "intention" to not date other people. It's not a commitment, because they recognize lots of legitimate reasons to walk away.

My point in all of this is that if you can't go into a marriage with the mindset that it's forever and "for better or worse", then you aren't committed to the person, but rather are committed to the feeling that the relationship gives you today. It's like saying "I am committed to you as long as I continue to find you attractive, that you continue on your best behavior like when we dated, and all of the positive things about you." You're basically committing to the 1/2 of the person that you like.

"WIth friends like that...." lol

Another way of saying that is, if you get married because you know you can leave at any time (pre-nup, divorce, etc), then you should not get married, you should just date.

The same divide exists with pregnancy and abortion. DO you have values and what do you value (besides yourself)?
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laydeel... to Liberal... 2012/10/07 03:50:48

But that's what I'm saying. To many people, marriage ISN'T any bigger a committment than just being with that person.
And I don't see the relation to pregnancy and abortion but to answer your question, I'm pro-choice.

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