Kristen Stewart Apologizes to Robert Pattinson: Could You Forgive Your S.O. for Cheating?

Depends on whether you're married, and how you define marriage.

So marriage is so easy to throw away that one instance of cheating can tear it apart? That doesn't say much for our idea of marriage. Like I said in my original post, habitual cheaters are an entirely different story than what I'm talking about. With that, the game changes.

Sorry I should have been more specific I was talking about your comment how we should get over the idea of owning each other. My understanding of marriage is that you DO belong to each other.

I disagree, I think that you are partners who agree to go through life together and share life, not necessarily owning each other. However, I think that you+your partner are the only ones who NEED to agree on what marriage is! If your idea of marriage is different than mine, it doesn't matter, since ideally we would each marry someone that agrees with our views :)

If you cheat on your relationship; what you're in essense saying to your partner that you are being selfish and that the person you're cheating with is first and foremost front and center. And your partner is second best in your heart your mind and your body.

You may not have any emotional attachment to the person you are cheating with. If a fleeting affair is only physical then the other person is NOT coming first - your own physical needs are coming first.
Why are you linking this "heart, mind, and body" all into sex? Who says your partner can't be the first to you emotionally if you have sex with someone else ONCE? Sex isn't the most important part of a relationship, your emotional connection is. If you don't have that, it doesn't even matter if you only have sex with your partner - you won't have the best part of a relationship. We need to worry more about what is in the relationship emotionally than singular physical transgressions.

Actually I was saying the short version of what you've stated. Re-read my posting; I was saying that when someone cheats, they are finding something in the new person that is lacking in their mate. I also said that because feelings was involved physically and emotionally with the new person, mate or lover; they become number one in the cheater's mind heart and soul, and the cheater don't care really who knows or see.
That's what happen with kristen steward; she was fascinated with an older man. Update: word is, she admitted to being involved with the director for over a year.

I think we are trying to make different points. I agree that when emotions become involved cheating becomes more severe, but I disagree that your heart and soul are involved in physical cheating.

My point wasn't *so much about Kristen Stewart as much as cheating in general - if she had a long lived affair that's something I wasn't referring to.

It has been revealed the affair started a year ago, last fall. A full blown affair physically and emotionally and spiritually. Neither one cared or thought about their significant other during their liaison. I was sticking to the topic of kristen stewart and robert pattison.
The mind, body and ultimately the soul are very powerful tools if it is used in any kind of sexual avenue whether it's physically or mentally and or emotionally. It is possible to love two spirits at the same time, because one spirit is making up for what is missing from the other spirit and the cheater is giving all they have to both lovers equally. If this was what kristen was doing, and if she loses both guys; she will find herself getting involved with two people at the same time trying to blend them into the perfect love she is seeking. "We shall see"

Why stick to the topic of Kristen and Robert? I never even MENTIONED THEM in my original post, get off it.

Obviously you and I just disagree on the difference between an emotional affair and a physical fling. I believe they can be two different things but you don't - to each their own opinion. I just believe that being in a relationship with someone that has the same views as yours is important - that's all that really matters :)

Actually perhaps you should exit if you are not addressing the topic about kristen stewart and robert pattison. Ask yourself why are you here or just start your own page if you want to be an expert on human body and feelings. I hardly think you could ever be more knowledgeable than me; but you can keep giving it your best shot, but stop responding to me go away little girl okay' lmthfa!!!

Perhaps that's what you do fuk around without being emotional, goes to show what kind of careless possible sleaze you are. I don't want to hear about your slutty ideals of doing someone without feelings being attached, go away kiddo, next to me you're a kid and you could never know more about life itself than me" goodbye honey.
Why don't you block me or I block you or we just ignore each other's posted comments sweetheart, I have grandkids older than you, go play with kids your age okay.

Actually I'm male sweetheart' no nursing home for me but I may own a few. Go back and read little girl, I was minding my business posting my comments; and for some ungodly reason you targeted me to keep on dissing about changing the subject to talk about what you wanted to talk about little girl. And when you saw I wasn't biting on the subject you were talking about ( emotions not being involved in cheating) you get pissed at me little girl. Define some of that stuff you keep hurling at me" Why you chose to take your anger out on over and over again? Everyone here see that you started attacking me first keep doing it and I will have them to block you from attacking me here. M'am leave me alone!!! Don't respond back. Find somebody else to argue with okay.

I did not throw any insults at you at all. I just told you that the point I was making was tangential to Kristen and Robert.
Next thing you know you start hurling insults at me, which is something I wouldn't expect from someone with your age and experience. Calling me a sleaze because I don't agree with you? Mean! Like I said before, you're just mean! And there's no way you can argue with that.

but still hard to forget how she cheated him....

But that doesn't mean that I would stay with them. That relationship would still be over.

All she had to say was one word...NO..... sad isn't it? Maybe she was too young to have a serious relationship...but she was old enought to know that that man was married..

She has been with robert pattison over three years, that was plenty enough time to know whether she loved him or not.
The much older guy probably manipulated her and seduced her, then started playing her mind, something robert did not start out doing to her. That was new and fascinating what the older guy was doing; and she fell in deep cheat.

To me they have to prove there love for awhile. if they mean what they so so I dont have to waste my time, and get hurt again

I'm a VERY forgiving person, but cheating is one of the worst and cowardly things someone could do to me. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Even if he never cheated again, I'd always be wondering if he would. I'd much rather be alone for the rest of my life than to share my life with a cheater! Resentment by Beyonce is a great example of how I think I'd react if I tried to work it out.

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It just depends---but I have a question for Kristin and Rupert Sanders: how many people do you have to hurt just to have your own way?

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Exactly the reason I'm going through a divorce. Once you cheat the trust is gone and no relationship can survive without it.

Sometimes it's not REALLY your S.O's fault.

How is that?

I have in the past and only to discover he was a player and hated married life. Got the specifics of his real gaming life yesterday 17 months after he abandoned the family. What has this cost us??? Nothing much, just putting us on the road and God took us in and said it will be alright, I am here now.
So he is not coming back now....

When you forgive a cheater once, it won't be long before the cheater cheats again and again and again because they found your weakness. And that weakness is you forgive them every time. If your significant other cheats, it's saying that you are no longer "the one" that does it for them and 'you are not' the "it factor" for them. That means your significant other is "double-dipping" (get it, double-dipping on the sexy side of an affair).
That is saying that you have moved from first place in their heart to second place and you don't get first dibs, you get scummy cheating "leftovers" K. S. has joined the "ho' club" a little scallywag hussy!!!
Better he found out now before he married her, he won't be able to trust her around producers and directors.

honestly, I don't know how that feels . and I don't even want to .
but somehow, some women are stupid enough to trust them again, otherwise,
if it's true love, I can understand . and I don't have to know how you feel in that
situation . it's understanable, and complicated .
but life goes on .

Not for any reason - certainly not when it was to further a career.

Things would never be the same. It would be best for us to part. She'll never win another argument!!!

Forgiveness would be in the cards, but the relationship would be dead.

I wouldn't. I'd say goodbye and go on with my life.

I have learned that forgiving is Godly.

Cheating isn't Godly.

God is the judge. Do you think retaliating is godly?

Not forgiving your significant other for cheating is not retaliating. It has not a thing to do with god. If you catch your significant other cheating on you" don't have to forgive them, you have that right to protect your mind, heart, body and soul from the cheater; if you choose to forgive, it still have nothing to do with god; it has to do with your emotions taking you over based on the good times and experiences you had in the past with the cheater, that you forgive and walk away or forgive and give it a second try with your cheating significant other.
If you caught your significant other in a sexual act doing the "DEED" with someone else; and you easily forgive that treachery against you, then perhaps you need to question your morals and principles and scruples, because you may be open to that sort of activity.

God is the only one that forgives. Forgive me for being direct, but what else can I do but show you what the KJV says Luke 6 >>37Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven: Everything has to do with God. God is not out there. God has to be in you. Harm another, and whoever harms God too.
King James Version

I could forgive-- eventually, if offered a sincere apology-- but I could never forget, and I could never trust them again. I could forgive, but I wouldn't be able to continue having a relationship with them because of it.