Jennifer Hudson Forgives Brother-in-Law for Killing her Mother, Brother and Nephew: Could You?
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2012/09/14 16:37:17
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Wow ... Jennifer Hudson must be superhuman. She has found it in her heart to forgive the man who killed her mother, brother and nephew, she tells "Oprah's Next Chapter."
Asked if she forgives her brother-in-law William Balfour, who received three life sentences in July, she responded: "Yes, because I feel like for the most part it's not his fault. It's how he was brought up. We tried to offer love, but you were so far gone, that you couldn't even see that.
"A lot of things came out, that we didn't even know about, from his upbringing, which is like he never had a chance. Had you had the love my mother gave us, or the background that some have, then you would've stood a chance."
Hudson also talks about how she managed to go on after the triple tragedy. "There were so many shocks involved in it. Like, who do I grieve for first? Or, who do I start with? It's bits and pieces. It's too much. You're confused. Your emotions are confused." Could you ever forgive a man who killed three of your family members?
Asked if she forgives her brother-in-law William Balfour, who received three life sentences in July, she responded: "Yes, because I feel like for the most part it's not his fault. It's how he was brought up. We tried to offer love, but you were so far gone, that you couldn't even see that.
"A lot of things came out, that we didn't even know about, from his upbringing, which is like he never had a chance. Had you had the love my mother gave us, or the background that some have, then you would've stood a chance."
Hudson also talks about how she managed to go on after the triple tragedy. "There were so many shocks involved in it. Like, who do I grieve for first? Or, who do I start with? It's bits and pieces. It's too much. You're confused. Your emotions are confused." Could you ever forgive a man who killed three of your family members?
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ikeknight 2012/09/14 22:01:57Yes, I would try
She's an object lesson for all of us.
talked. I hope you are well and are getting enough sleep and life is treating you good.
Be well. :-)
My initial reaction was NO WAY but that is my flesh talking.
I am a Christian and we are commanded to forgive others as God has forgiven us.
I commend Jennifer and I think she is an extraordinary human being for finding
the strength to forgive this man who killed her family. Especially her mother.
This is a decision that only divine intervention could miraculously make for me.
I know the right thing to do is forgive. I don't think it would be humanly possible for me to live with that nightmare and forgive without the grace of God.
Kudos Jennifer !
No, it is my way of saying "You have no power over my joy in life. I am not letting you live rent-free in my heart." Let that stuff go, it makes you feel a million times better when people have no power over you anymore.
Any person who would be able to forgive something like that is a great person, but i would blow his head of his shoulders, then i would forgive him.
I do think that forgive and forget thing is pie in the sky, you might forgive but to forget is something else.
It's because forgiveness for me isn't saying "It's okay", it's saying "I'm not going to allow you to have control over my life anymore, I'm going to move on with my life and you'll have to live with what you did for the rest of yours."
It's not condoning what they did, it's simply letting go and moving on. In the case of an atrocity such as the murder of my loved one(s), if I were able to control myself (not kill those that did it), I'd like to believe that I could forgive them, I'm certain I would try.
That's why they say forgiveness is for yourself, because the victims are the only ones who gain anything from it. We are able to move on but they will always have to live with what they've done (through guilt, anger, and/or the label).