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Jennifer Hudson Forgives Brother-in-Law for Killing her Mother, Brother and Nephew: Could You?

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Wow ... Jennifer Hudson must be superhuman. She has found it in her heart to forgive the man who killed her mother, brother and nephew, she tells "Oprah's Next Chapter."

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Asked if she forgives her brother-in-law William Balfour, who received three life sentences in July, she responded: "Yes, because I feel like for the most part it's not his fault. It's how he was brought up. We tried to offer love, but you were so far gone, that you couldn't even see that.

"A lot of things came out, that we didn't even know about, from his upbringing, which is like he never had a chance. Had you had the love my mother gave us, or the background that some have, then you would've stood a chance."

Hudson also talks about how she managed to go on after the triple tragedy. "There were so many shocks involved in it. Like, who do I grieve for first? Or, who do I start with? It's bits and pieces. It's too much. You're confused. Your emotions are confused." Could you ever forgive a man who killed three of your family members?
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  • Casy 2012/10/01 21:48:18
    No way
    Casy
    no way
    hell no
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  • Transquesta 2012/10/01 21:32:36
    Yes, I would try
    Transquesta
    Sounds to me like Jennifer Hudson has learned a very valuable life lesson: forgiveness isn't as much for the forgiven as for the forgiver. It's the only way out of a mental death spiral.
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  • brittany 2012/10/01 21:31:03 (edited)
    No way
    brittany
    what the hell is wrong with her?
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  • tooner259 2012/09/17 17:04:57
    Yes, I would try
    tooner259
    I guess I could,it`s not like he killed any of my family..................
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  • GoreGirl 2012/09/17 16:02:31
    No way
    GoreGirl
    I'd hope he'd get a surprise every night for a guy named Billy Bob...then I'd hope he was sent to the deepest depths of hell. I have no sympathy or compassion for anyone who murders, family or not.
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  • Black-Indian Girl 2012/09/17 15:25:23
    Yes, I would try
    Black-Indian Girl
    I would try, but it definitely won't be easy. Neither grudges nor forgiveness will turn back he hands of time. If that ever happened to someone I loved, I'll probably need lots of time to heal. I wish the best for Ms. Hudson.
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  • PortaPocketGal 2012/09/17 14:54:26
    No way
    PortaPocketGal
    BUT no doubt she is doing this for her own self preservation. To get past the pain it's probably the only way. easy to speculate what we'd do when we're not IN that seat ...if we were, it'd be a whole different ballgame...
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  • art1ej 2012/09/17 14:43:39
    Yes, I would try
    art1ej
    I would try to forgive but the anger & hurt would be there in me.....
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  • Vanessa 2012/09/17 13:58:46
    Yes, I would try
    Vanessa
    It would be difficult though... Can't really picture the situation.
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  • Lordoftheringsrox 2012/09/17 13:06:02
    Yes, I would try
    Lordoftheringsrox
    I would because Jesus said to forgive even he had to go through deep pain. Good for her, and I'll pray that he makes better choices in the future!
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  • Heat Nation 2012/09/17 12:25:39
    No way
    Heat Nation
    Forgive but never ever ever forget.
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  • DANNY59 2012/09/17 11:30:51
    Yes, I would try
    DANNY59
    Forgiveness is your most powerful tool in the healing process. Even forgiving yourself of something you might be ashamed of doing is very empowering, and necessary to start the healing process.
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  • El Prez 2012/09/17 09:18:09
    No way
    El Prez
    Prtobably not but I admire her for doing so!!
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  • Sapphire101 2012/09/17 06:28:16
    No way
    Sapphire101
    +1
    I would never in a gazillion years forgive someone who killed my mother, let alone someone who not only killed my mother AND my brother and nephew. I'd never forgive that person so jen. hudson must be PRETTTY kind to forgive someone like that, but again we dont know the full story of her brother-in-law.
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  • nina 2012/09/17 00:11:02
    No way
    nina
    +1
    i could never forgive the man that took away my mother or any other part of my family
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  • Slurry 2012/09/16 20:40:47
    Yes, I would try
    Slurry
    +1
    Holding a grudge won't rewind time, nor will it make anything better. She seems like a good person, I'm glad she's moved on.
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  • Aquaduck 2012/09/16 20:05:44
    Yes, I would try
    Aquaduck
    I would forgive him for my own sake, not exactly for his. I heard somewhere (I think it was from a movie) that a grudge is like a torch. The more you hold one, the more you get burned. And it's so true.
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  • Twinky 2012/09/16 19:55:51
    Yes, I would try
    Twinky
    +1
    With God's help I would, not ever in my own strength though... I'm not strong enough.
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  • NeutronBomb 2012/09/16 19:51:51
    No way
    NeutronBomb
    If it helps her to move on though perhaps its for the best, isnt she quite a commited christian also?
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  • retrograve 2012/09/16 19:33:05
    No way
    retrograve
    I'd try but naw, I think I'd be in a permanent outrage. Thought they say forgiving isn't for the other person but your own peace of mind.
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  • DANNY59 retrograve 2012/09/17 11:39:20
    DANNY59
    +1
    It is more of a help to your healing process. Years ago I use to hold on to many things I was ashamed I did as a younger person, nothing major, just little things, but when I learned to let go and forgive myself, I couldn't believe how much better I felt. So now I forgive everybody who's hurt me or anyone else, and it is such a great feeling, I'm in the best state of mind in my 53 years of being alive.
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  • addie 2012/09/16 19:00:05
    No way
    addie
    Who is Jennifer Hudson? Between the bad wig and make-up, I'm guessing a famous, but bad, aging transexual? Well good for her. lol
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  • lhondyn 2012/09/16 18:57:15
    Yes, I would try
    lhondyn
    +2
    I would try so much because it won't help anyone holding a grudge against the man. he's serving his time, thrice.
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  • Reikyrr 2012/09/16 18:43:38
    Yes, I would try
    Reikyrr
    I would, after inflicting horrible harm to his physical and mental state.
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  • sm237 2012/09/16 18:28:11
    No way
    sm237
    +1
    I like Jennifer and this shows she is a much stronger person than I am. I could not forgive that senseless violence.
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  • mark 2012/09/16 18:28:08
    No way
    mark
    Absolutely , NO WAY!
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  • Kaye 2012/09/16 18:20:27
    Yes, I would try
    Kaye
    +4
    If you don't forgive it just eats away at you.If you forgive you'll be forgiven
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  • boltfox20 2012/09/16 18:02:31
    No way
    boltfox20
    While I understand where she is coming from, I also understand I would be unable to do that, even if I wanted to. Just not in my nature.
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  • Louisa - Enemy of the State 2012/09/16 17:04:45
    Yes, I would try
    Louisa - Enemy of the State
    I think I could because I can't manage to hold a grudge against anyone. I wouldn't want to be 'friends', but I would let it go.
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  • abigail-13 2012/09/16 15:20:41
    Yes, I would try
    abigail-13
    AFTER i torture him and make him feel wat i feel.
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  • sandra 2012/09/16 14:24:15
    Yes, I would try
    sandra
    It just shows how deeply spiritual she must be to forgive such a thing.
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  • Trish 2012/09/16 14:19:46
    Yes, I would try
    Trish
    +2
    Jesus forgave his murderers, and then forgave the world, and then forgave us in the future. Yeah I think forgiving someone for doing wrong will work out best in the long run.
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  • NJOY 2012/09/16 13:25:36
    Yes, I would try
    NJOY
    God told us to forgive so we can live. if we stay stock then that person has won and got what they wanted .that was to show you they have control over you.
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  • chuck 2012/09/16 05:33:37
    Yes, I would try
    chuck
    +2
    After i killed him i would try to forgive
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  • Zombiecat~Metalhead4Life 2012/09/16 05:25:46
    No way
    Zombiecat~Metalhead4Life
    +2
    Forgive someone for murdering your blood? Sorry she must be stronger than I am. But maybe in her shoes it would be different. Because I can't even think about it.
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  • sandra Zombiec... 2012/09/16 14:28:56 (edited)
    sandra
    +2
    A person finds strength in Spirituality, not to be confused with Religion . spiritual kitty spiritual kitty
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  • Zombiec... sandra 2012/09/17 01:14:13 (edited)
    Zombiecat~Metalhead4Life
    +1
    I am a very spiritual person so I maybe would find the strength in the worst of times.
    And yes I believe the same about cats.
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  • sandra Zombiec... 2012/09/17 09:45:02
    sandra
    +1
    I found that it gets better with time. It has been like this for me. Thanks for writing back.
    Hopefully ,we never have to experience what Jennifer Hudson went through .
    I don`t like to think about it either though. xo...
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  • knoodelhed 2012/09/16 04:27:42
    Yes, I would try
    knoodelhed
    +3
    ...about five seconds after relieving myself on the grave he obliged me to put him in.
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  • Rhi-ot. 2012/09/16 03:33:33
    No way
    Rhi-ot.
    +1
    I mean I'd try but that'd be way too hard.
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