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Is Writing a Song About Your Ex Vengeful or Therapeutic? (John Mayer Says It's 'Humiliating')

The Big Question 2012/06/06 19:44:19
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In a recent interview with Rolling Stone magazine, John Mayer said he was "really humiliated" to hear that ex-girlfriend Taylor Swift had written a song, titled "Dear John," about their breakup -- and that he "didn't deserve it." Find out what else the singer had to say about Ms. Swift at 1:00 in the video below! Warning: it's pretty scandalous...

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  • Julie 2012/06/27 12:52:05
    Therapeutic
    Julie
    Not only is it therapeutic, it can also be great fun. Guess it depends on how you feel about your ex, eh?
  • aurelie 2012/06/20 07:04:03
    Therapeutic
    aurelie
    But Taylor Swift always takes it too far.
  • Vision of Verve 2012/06/11 20:57:44
  • xxxoooxxx 2012/06/11 20:57:16
    Therapeutic
    xxxoooxxx
    It might also be vengeful, but it would depend on the words to the song and what they are saying.
  • FineCut69 2012/06/11 19:14:38
    Therapeutic
    FineCut69
    It's really both, but it is also the risk you take by marrying eccentric people... So, I'm going with therapeutic.... Hahahahaha....
  • beach bum 2012/06/10 21:50:21
    Therapeutic
    beach bum
    therapeutic
  • Jinx 2012/06/09 06:46:58
    Vengeful
    Jinx
    Huh. I was under the impression that ALL of Taylor Swift's songs are about past relationships...
  • MayaAngelou0524 2012/06/08 15:03:56
    Therapeutic
    MayaAngelou0524
    I used to talk about how I couldn't stand Taylor Swift because all her songs are about either her boyfriend of the week or her break-up of the week. I said it was weak and whiny But then I thought about it...

    She's not crying over these guys. She's humiliating them! I have more respect for her than I used to! I love it! Plus I kinda had to leave it alone because I write love stories, poems AND songs :D.
  • Lady Aiyanna 2012/06/08 13:50:35
    Therapeutic
    Lady Aiyanna
    I write songs!!! I have written about the women who destroyed my relationship with my husband and let it go... Writing is more spiritual and therapeutic.
  • Fenabarb 2012/06/08 08:24:22
    Therapeutic
    Fenabarb
    +1
    Therapeutic vengefulness
  • Ron in Oregon 2012/06/07 19:48:21
    Therapeutic
    Ron in Oregon
    Therapeutic
  • ticlo7 2012/06/07 18:00:47
    Therapeutic
    ticlo7
    Both, actually. If he's so humiliated by it, why did he bring it up? Just be the better person and let it die!
  • TerryAgee 2012/06/07 17:31:15
    Vengeful
    TerryAgee
    LOL It is always one-sided. Yay or nay?
  • Courtney 2012/06/07 14:50:06
    Therapeutic
    Courtney
    John Mayer sucks.

    Writing helps me figure things out. You go, Taylor!!!
  • Kigan 2012/06/07 14:05:27 (edited)
    Therapeutic
    Kigan
    The writing part is therapeutic.

    It becomes vengeful when the theme is negative towards the person and you decide to make it a public song that is part of your CD and performances.

    The only time I'd say that isn't vengeful is if the ex wants you to use it.
  • AM 2012/06/07 13:17:13
  • the.stupidity 2012/06/07 09:21:08
    Vengeful
    the.stupidity
    Blah blah blah
  • BubbaGrrl 2012/06/07 07:30:35
    Therapeutic
    BubbaGrrl
    Depends on the break up I guess....
  • Mic-E 2012/06/07 07:23:02
    Therapeutic
    Mic-E
    Therapeutic!! I do that now! It's a good to channel all of the emotions associated with the breakup and any unresolved issues that you have and need to process. It's great therapy!!
  • fcombs 2012/06/07 06:18:29
    Therapeutic
    fcombs
    +1
    Writing is the least harmful and most cathartic you can do to express emotions and get them out there. I don't write songs, but if I did, there'd be some wild ones out there. I think the key is to write the song but keep it just for yourself to sing in those moments when you need to vent. It's private - nobody gets hurt, and singing your own special venting song gets out those emotions. Anybody who writes a song and records it for public consumption is being vengeful. So, it can go both ways.
  • sally 2012/06/07 05:15:51
    Therapeutic
    sally
    +1
    It really depends on the situation. If it's a heart broken type of song then sure go ahead and put it on your CD, some of the most popular songs are about heart break. But if it's talking trash about an ex and saying some completely untrue things then maybe you should take a break and think about the implications before letting it out on a disc that will be bought by millions.
  • Packersgirl 2012/06/07 03:36:06
    Therapeutic
    Packersgirl
    still really mean tho when its obvious who its about
  • HelenKeller 2012/06/07 03:04:22
    Vengeful
    HelenKeller
    Honestly i think taylor swift sucks.
  • Eyes See Wide North 2012/06/07 03:03:09
    Vengeful
    Eyes See Wide North
    On both people involved, it brings no good into your lives to carry on anger towards one another, do not hate what you have loved, because you cannot love it now.

    But if you really love someone and always will, express your hate, respectfully, as with Eternal Love, comes Eternal Hate. Its is the oldest and most lost proverb in this world. Only wise men know of it.
  • Raphy 2012/06/07 02:50:12
    Therapeutic
    Raphy
    John Mayer need to man up. She needed to vent. It's over and done now.
  • Bob, the reasonable one 2012/06/07 02:49:03
    Therapeutic
    Bob, the reasonable one
    +1
    John Mayer is a beeeeeyotch!!! He's a man-whore that pumps as many women as he can...I like the idea that he got a little come uppance....why the hell did Taylor Swift fall for this creepazoid I have no idea...but it was 2 years ago and the song was a year ago...so for him to mention it now is kind of silly....but obviously Taylor should be glad that he took notice of the song...
  • L1 2012/06/07 02:48:28
    Vengeful
    L1
    If you make it public fodder and identify that person, then I find it vengeful. If it's personal, the I find it might be therapeutic.
  • pdarkow 2012/06/07 02:47:13
    Therapeutic
    pdarkow
    Actually it can be both writing a song about a break up can be therapeutic in dealing with the emotional pain involved it can also be vengeful depending on what is put in the song. In either case it is usually written by someone who has a hard time letting go.
  • Torchy 2012/06/07 02:46:27
    Therapeutic
    Torchy
    +1
    This coming from the "man" who has no issue over-sharing details about his ex's with the public in general?? This coming from a notorious WGWG womanizer?? He deserves any feces flung at him.
  • wtw 2012/06/07 02:41:16
    Therapeutic
    wtw
    +1
    Like singing the blues--great for the soul!
  • Balladeer-PWCM-POTL 2012/06/07 02:41:07
    Therapeutic
    Balladeer-PWCM-POTL
    +1
    If you are Carly Simon it becomes your signature song..

  • abubincrazy 2012/06/07 02:39:15
    Vengeful
    abubincrazy
    +1
    Maybe John should stick to groupies
  • RT 2012/06/07 02:32:40
  • Walt 2012/06/07 02:26:15
    Therapeutic
    Walt
    +1
    It's been a while, but usually after a bad breakup, I write vindictive poetry. It's both vengeful and therapeutic.
  • ~HopelessRomanticM17~ 2012/06/07 02:00:48
    Therapeutic
    ~HopelessRomanticM17~
    Sometimes it's easier to deal with pain and such by writing about it...he's just bitter...but really he shouldn't be surprised, the girl writes about everything
  • Caedus01 Sith Lord of the P... 2012/06/07 01:59:06
    Vengeful
    Caedus01 Sith Lord of the PHAET
    Depends on the circumstances of the break up i guess
  • glass_butterfly ~YSU~ 2012/06/07 01:45:08
    Therapeutic
    glass_butterfly ~YSU~
    +1
    Aww that poor womanizer. Hey here's a thought, if you don't want a song written about you DON'T DATE Taylor Swift! He shouldn't have seen that a mile away!

    And anyway he writes songs about he's exs all the time. The taste of your own medicine must be bitter. Get over it... Cry baby GIF
  • TimothyBrianFoley 2012/06/07 01:30:14
    Therapeutic
    TimothyBrianFoley
    if she felt like she wanted to get this off her chest good we want her to speak the truth
  • WhereIsAmerica? ~PWCM~JLA 2012/06/07 01:19:19
    Therapeutic
    WhereIsAmerica? ~PWCM~JLA
    +1
    But it is fine if HE does it? What a jerk, as bad as Adele's ex.
  • kitkat42 2012/06/07 01:16:44
    Therapeutic
    kitkat42
    +1
    Humiliating? Really John? Was it humiliating when you wrote your songs about the women YOU dated and tossed over? You can dish it but can't give it. You, sir, are a hypocrite!

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