If your spouse confessed to a one-time affair, you would:
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2012/09/19 19:00:00
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TasselLady 2012/09/19 21:47:22Forgive Him
+8But I would not remain with him. I've been cheated on before and could never go through that ever again.
Second, I couldn't stand being around a person who ever saw fit to stray. It's a violation of a contract between us, a breach of loyalty, I couldn't forgive such a grievous violation.
Though I would certainly be glad he was at the very least man enough to own up to it. So at least he can admit to it. You know as opposed to me catching him. So I might be willing to give him another chance based on that... but he'd be on such a short leash afterward that he might as well just divorce me because he isn't going to be getting within 2 feet of another woman unless totally necessary.
Really though if he wanted to get it out with other women he should just divorce me now, it would be much simpler than cheating. I'm not going to be a vindictive bitch if you divorce me for a good reason, but if you cheat on me then divorce me... well that's just stupid and I got screwed over so now I'm gonna have to screw you over. I don't want to have to do that, but I will. And when I do it it'll hurt you a lot more than it'll hurt me... and it might also involve that slut you got with getting hurt as well. I don't know, I'm unpredictable when I'm being vindictive and sadistic.
Either way though, if you have an a...
Second, I couldn't stand being around a person who ever saw fit to stray. It's a violation of a contract between us, a breach of loyalty, I couldn't forgive such a grievous violation.
Though I would certainly be glad he was at the very least man enough to own up to it. So at least he can admit to it. You know as opposed to me catching him. So I might be willing to give him another chance based on that... but he'd be on such a short leash afterward that he might as well just divorce me because he isn't going to be getting within 2 feet of another woman unless totally necessary.
Really though if he wanted to get it out with other women he should just divorce me now, it would be much simpler than cheating. I'm not going to be a vindictive bitch if you divorce me for a good reason, but if you cheat on me then divorce me... well that's just stupid and I got screwed over so now I'm gonna have to screw you over. I don't want to have to do that, but I will. And when I do it it'll hurt you a lot more than it'll hurt me... and it might also involve that slut you got with getting hurt as well. I don't know, I'm unpredictable when I'm being vindictive and sadistic.
Either way though, if you have an affair on me you'll be paying for it dearly, even if I give you another chance. Punishment is necessary, but I would also need to understand why they felt like cheating on me. Because obviously the problem would be them, not me.
there is no such thing as a a "onetime" affair
If I didn't figure it out, that would mean he got away with it-- and if he got away with a one-time affair, he would have to chose between hiding it from me and confessing. The "once a cheater always a cheater"-type isn't going to come out an confess because it would hinder any future affairs. Confessing means that he has no plans to ever do something like that again and a sincere apology accompanying it means he's knows it was wrong.
Assuming he confessed to me, I would be able to forgive him and be able to try to salvage our relationship and, over time, build the trust back. It wouldn't be an instant process and would probably be very difficult emotionally, but if he had it in him to confess and apologize when it looked like he could hide it from me forever, it would be worth the effort.
If he confessed in face of my realization, or did not act like what he did was wrong, he'd be out the door. And I probably would never be able to forget in the scenario above, and if that man cheated again, he'd be gone faster than he could say, "Quidditch".
I did forgive my wife.