If your spouse confessed to a one-time affair, you would:

Haha out the window for you.

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Although I would definitely get a little worried, and I would spend some time in shock and weeping.

but it totally depends on the circumstances!!!!
i don't condone cheating but i DO believe that there are usually bigger problems in that relationship than sex when it occurs.
if 1 partner isn't satisfied sexually in a long term relationship than it's their responsibility to discuss it with the other person. open and honest discussion about sex is important for any relationship to last. what you liked when you were first married/dating/hooking up may not be what you like today. The frequency or attraction to the other person may change for one person but not for both.

If we shared a great life together and my man had a 1 time drunken fling... i might be able to forgive and move on... but if there was emotional cheating along with it and it lasted for a long time behind my back, there's no coming back from that in my book.

If he's confessing, he obviously feels bad. I'd give him/her another chance, but I'd be cautious.

I probably would forgive him, but I still wouldn't stay with him.

and then leave him....so not worth it.

I would try to forgive but it would be really difficult.

Forgive HER. Besides, my wife would forgive me if I had second wife... so....

And women cheat too :)

It's another stupidly asked SH question.

I would forgive him cos I'm a dumbass and I would burn and perish than be without him. I know he would never cheat though .he respects and loves me to much

Bye bye

Number one thing I won't forgive...cheating! It breaks down so many other things, it'd be done.

It is a cliche, but it holds true, a cheater is a cheater, period!

IF he could honestly prove he was truly sorry and work to earn back my trust.

How does a person work to earn back trust?

The same way they got your trust to begin with. By doing what they say they're doing, and going where they say they're going, so on and so forth. What do you mean, how do you do that?

A person doesn't earn trust, it's a given, so once it is has been disrespected it can't be earned back. We were married for 30-years, and I left nine years ago. It was the correct decision.

I disagree. You don't just GIVE your trust to people. That's what makes you a doormat. Trust and respect are earned they aren't "given."

I don't agree but then that is what opinions are for. So how does one earn trust?

Did I not just answer that?

Do you mean doing penance and groveling and begging and ass kissing?

I'm sorry, I'm having trouble reading my own words, apparently. Where did I say that, again?

What does going where they say they were going, or do what they say they were doing mean. it doesn't make sense.

I'm so done talking to you. All you're doing is pissing me off with your ignorance, this isn't going anywhere, and I'm not going to keep explaining my response to you. Are you sure YOU left 9 years ago, or did SHE? Know what, don't care. Bye! :D

Actually, I left 30-years ago. Then I guess we won't be discussing my theory on "Wife / Prostitute syndrome"? I have others? How about dinner? Or a movie?

I also have a problem with the gender specific answers but I would say it would have to depend on the situation and the people involved. I don't think anyone can truthfully give a cut and dry answer on this one.

if he doesn't seem to want my trust then he doesn't deserve my forgiveness.

Why is "him" the only option?

Does someone think that only men cheat? LOL- ask a man who knows or a lesbian- women cheat too! Not all of them, fortunately.

Don't get excited; it's another poorly put SH question.

I'm not excited, unfortunately.

Hey! I never messed around on my wife but either way he or she should hit the road.

A guy have an affair one time so he can do it again another time. OH HELL NO baby! is bye,bye for your ass.

Nope Ben there and don't want to again.

I'd just leave.

Depends on circumstances. Everyone can have weaknesses, these are strong natural urges we're dealing with and confusing times as to how we're supposed to live our lives. If they're telling the truth now it should show that they've learned at least a little courage to tell you and have realized the error of their ways/gotten it out of their system and realized they really DO want to be with you and you alone. Just have to read the situation.

Apparently, he forgot me so I will forget him. I will forgive, but you will be forgotten.

Depending on what he says it was, the lenghth, and other factors.