If your spouse confessed to a one-time affair, you would:

by Let's Ask America Posted 2012/09/19 19:00:00

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TasselLady 2012/09/19 21:47:22

Forgive Him

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But I would not remain with him. I've been cheated on before and could never go through that ever again.

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Keanu 2012/09/20 05:16:24

Forgive Him

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I would be hurt and angry. Upset and unsettled. But I've been on the other side of that situation and the pain is just as bad doing as it is receiving. If we made a vow, I will honor it no matter his act. Forgiveness takes time though, so I won't expect to heal over night, just as he wouldn't expect me to just get over it. But on that note, I can't say what i'd do. I'd hope to be able to forgive because I've done some unforgivable things to people that didn't deserve them...but they've shown me the greatest love and support in spite of.

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zcberry 2012/09/20 05:14:30

Forgive Him

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I would not won't to know.

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Miss Kris 2012/09/20 05:08:18

Forgive Him

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But it depends on how it happened, how close they were, and other stuff. Also, I've never been in that situation, so I don't know how I'd be able to handle it.

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Wyveryx 2012/09/20 04:56:43

Forgive Him

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There really ought to be an Undecided here.

I mean let's face it, the answers themselves are aimed solely at men, but a spouse could be man or woman and both have been known to cheat.

I personally feel that it depends on how stable and strong the relationship is between two people. If you're married then it should be strong. Bad things happen and so do stupid things, most of the time when people weren't thinking of the consequences.
If there were true remorse and honesty, then i'd more than likely forgive.
Allow the marriage to ride on the tumultuous waves a bit and in the end, it might be stronger for it.

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Cricket 2012/09/20 04:48:44

Forget Him

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I wouldn't waste one emotion on him.

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Crispy 2012/09/20 04:47:26

Forget Him

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I would leave him. If he cant respect me enough and love me enough to not cheat then i dont want to be with him

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KaTy BeAr 2012/09/20 04:47:11

Forgive Him

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People are so harsh... as long as he's honest and clean about it, I could... as long as we could talk it through, it's worth a chance at least...

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Patent1 2012/09/20 04:42:53

Forgive Him

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In this case, forgive her. People are weak. I am weak. Forgiveness is divine. Everybody should have a chance to be forgiven.

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Saga 2012/09/20 04:41:19

Forget Him

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Once they've crossed the line, it's bound to happen again ..

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boo63 2012/09/20 04:33:20

Forget Him

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Would never trust him again so I wouldn't stay with him. Once a cheater always a cheater

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sloane.carmenlasher 2012/09/20 04:28:22

Forget Him

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he should burn in hell

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Steveth... to sloane.... 2012/09/20 04:38:01

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I agree!

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Shawna 2012/09/20 04:27:22

Forget Him

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I'm not sure if you mean a one night stand or an affair with one person only. I could get over a one night stand and give him another chance, but an affair is deliberate and ongoing so i would say see ya later, cheater, you clearly don't love me.

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Steveth... to Shawna 2012/09/20 04:36:45

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Has that happened to you?

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Shawna to Steveth... 2012/09/20 04:38:33

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No. Though not long before I left my husband he confessed to me that he had cheated on me once while we were engaged. He was amazed at how easily I could forgive him. Then he found out it was because I didn't love him anymore.

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Steveth... to Shawna 2012/09/20 04:42:43

Why did he confess at that time?

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Shawna to Steveth... 2012/09/20 04:46:44

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I don't know. I don't remember what lead up to the confession. I think the fact that our marriage was on shaky ground was sort of coming to a head. We were together 25 years and he grew increasingly emotionally abusive. It took me a long time to recognise it as things are rarely black and white so I kept telling myself that he was a good man and I just had to put up with a few things. One day I realised that I put up with too much.

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Steveth... to Shawna 2012/09/20 05:06:14

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I'm sorry. I wish I had not been a good mate and stuck round so long, because at my age relationships are impossible to form.

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Shawna to Steveth... 2012/09/20 05:09:46

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It's definitely harder the older you get, but on the other hand the older you get the more the women outnumber the men so at least you should find yourself a hot item! ;-)

I have looked back and realised there were red flags that maybe I should have noticed, and thought to myself, maybe I should have gotten out then, maybe we should not have had a child together. But that's the thing, we have a child and I can never ever regret my wonderful son. So I just accept that everything in my life has contributed to who I am today and I am happy with that.

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Steveth... to Shawna 2012/09/20 06:39:26 (edited)

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Sure I adore my kids; their my life. My wife and I were happily married for 30-years. Most people don't date that long. I can't just go out and start another relationship that easily. I am in sales and meet tons of desirable women and I see the signs. They fuss with their hair and then ask, "What church do you attend." And I say that I don't belong to any cults. So you see?

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Shawna to Steveth... 2012/09/20 06:42:27

LOL-that would bring it all to a halt for me too, if guy asked me that.

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sockpuppet 2012/09/20 04:13:17

Forget Him

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You don't cheat on your partner in a card game-- you sure as heck don't cheat on a spouse!

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A Lionheart 2012/09/20 04:13:03

Forget Him

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Her.

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Patriotic Gentleman 2012/09/20 04:10:08

Forget Him

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Why are there only 2 choices in this poll? How about "Forget Her" and "Forgive Her"?
My first wife cheated on my at least four times before I divorced her. Never again.

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Medulla Oblongata 2012/09/20 04:09:21 (edited)

Forgive Him

Or her. If I think my spouse and our love is worth it.

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sjalan 2012/09/20 04:03:05

Forgive Him

Or HER as in my case.

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rk 2012/09/20 04:00:54

Forgive Him

Its forgive her

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Rave 2012/09/20 04:00:01

Forgive Him

It's not that big of a deal to me. I don't see how having a one night stand is a worse mistake worth ending our relationship/friendship. I can think of much worse mistakes, and I expect people to make mistakes. Myself included.

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themadhare ~IJM 2012/09/20 03:59:49

Forget Him

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J.MaisOui 2012/09/20 03:44:15

Forget Him

Absolutely not....would be planning my newfound future of freedom. :0)

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White Phoenix 2012/09/20 03:42:08

Forgive Him

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I would forgive him but i would leave him...if he did it once, he'll do it again....

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Waiting in the Wings 2012/09/20 03:41:52

Forget Him

I can forgive many things, but cheating on me is a world killer for me. Emotional and sexual cheating is never okay. I'd never trust him. I'd end up spying on him and being spiteful. If he did it once, he'll do it again.

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Sybil 2012/09/20 03:34:01

Forget Him

Been there done that. This is both our second time around after divorcing cheaters and if it happened now, forget it. Bu-Bye.

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jubil8 BN-0 PON 2012/09/20 03:29:30

Forgive Him

If by "one-time," you mean "one-night stand" or similar, probably. But realistically each person would have to decide for him/herself what the limits of tolerance and trust are.

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Becca 2012/09/20 03:23:06

Forget Him

He did it once, he'll do it again.

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