I don't know what's wrong.

You're fourteen. This time in your life would be better spent establishing your own sense of identity, self-worth and independence. It's hard enough doing so on your own, but close to impossible when you're pining for companionship, striving to get boys' attention, etc. You have plenty of time to begin and end relationships down the road (and they will end dozens of times, have no doubt). Enjoy youth, solitude, introspection.

I do enjoy youth. I have amazing friends who make me laugh everyday and I can't be more grateful to them. But I can't help how I feel. No matter how stupid it may look to the older generation.

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In no way did I intend to suggest you're stupid for experiencing the feelings and doubts you do. I celebrate your humanity and your maturation. Certainly, this is part of that maturation. Gratitude, humor, etc., all very important, too! But remember to look at the big picture. Sadness and "low spells" aren't a case of "not feeling yourself," but completely the opposite. We ALL feel down at times in our lives, sometimes for extended periods of time. If it goes on too long, yes, I'd possibly consider it a spell of depression. But if it never happened, you might very well be a sociopath, someone who is incapable of feeling empathy for herself or others. Consider yourself fortunate to feel down, because it makes the up times even better!

Oh I didn't meant to imply that you thought I was stupid. It's just, I think older people think that younger people like me loving someone would be too large a thing to consider at my age. But for me it's not. I feel older than I actually am. And I do celebrate the happy times, I never do not enjoy them to the fullest. I suppose I've just been feeling a little lonely lately, that's all. Hopefully it'll pass soon.

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It shall, and anyone who thinks you're stupid for loving at your age is forgetting what it felt like to be an adolescent. It's not the same kind of love that comes with age, wisdom and pragmatism, but that doesn't make it any less authentic or any less important to experience in life. Keep at it and keep your head up!

I will and I'll try. Thank you for your help.
It may not have helped me with how I'm feeling, but it made me realise that feeling how I felt wasn't stupid or small. It's just part of growing up and experiencing new feelings. So thank you. :)

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:)

Find someone else, you'll be fine

I want to.

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I've been feeling the same way recently. I can go from happy to the bottom of sad. I can't explain it. But you said that you recently got out of a relationship with a guy and that you were mostly over him? If you think that you've been feeling down because you guy lonely and you are mostly over this other guy, maybe it's time to move on? Is there anyone else you can see yourself being with?

Not really. I want to find someone though. I know falling in love again will make me happy.

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Maybe just focus on other things at the moment. Friends and school. Try to be happy without the boy. Because we don't need guys to be truly happy. A guy will come along, but since there is no one now... maybe it is meant to be later.

You have a good point. And at the moment that has been what I'm focusing on.. I'll try to just keep focusing on that and try not to be too lonely without the guy...because I'm going to find someone else in the future anyway I hope.
Thank you for your help. :)

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No problem, anytime. :)