Halle Berry and Gabriel Aubry Reach Truce: Is It Important to Get Along With Your Ex?

I think if children are involved then yes. It makes it easier. But in any other case exes should stay civil (just to avoid the "drama factor"), but there is no necessity to "get along".

it saves on the drama

Yes, especially when you have children.

It is a lot cheaper than divorce.

only if they have a child together

Yes! Especially if you have a child together!

You do not have to get along, but both need to be reasonable.

When a child is involved it's essential.

if the couple was married and had kids or if one of the exes were dying then one should depend on another. then sure otherwise it really doesnt matter.

Hell no!
I wanted to slap her in the face but she went and died before I had the chance.

I feel that if children are involved, it is really important to try to get along, no matter how hard it may be. When I got my divorce, I got the kids and he would slide through at his convenience. He made it VERY hard for me not to say ugly things about him to the kids, but I always made sure that whatever opinion they would have of their dad would be just that, THEIR opinion. I would lie to cover for why he didn't show up, buy gifts and put his name on them on Holidays etc.

My children are now grown, and they see their father for what he is,and I am confident about the fact that i didn't influence them at all. I HATE it when adults use their children as pawns in a game. My ex and I sat down and reminded each other that at one point we did like each other and we needed to go back to that and become friends again, in order for the kids to not harbor ill feelings towards either of us, although he sure made it hard for me to not say the truth, I really didn't want to influence my kids in any way regarding their father.

My twin sons intend to change their last name in the near future they are that disgruntled with their father. And I still tell my kids regularly that their relationship with their dad is just that - THEIR relationship and that I will support them in whatever they do.

Especially if there are children involved. Their happiness and well being should trump the anger that may have transpired between the parents. They have to raise mentally healthy children and be involved throughout the developmental years.

If it work under the same roof, why would work apart?

Especially when the 2 of you have kids

If the relationship consisted of only you and your ex, then not only isn't it necessary to get along, you don't really need to see or talk to each other ever again, should you so choose. However, if children are involved, it is IMPERATIVE that both parties get along. At the very least, you and your ex should maintain a cordial and pleasant attitude, even if you detest each other, and especially in front of the kids. Since my ex-husband and I divorced, although I couldn't stand him for a long time afterward, I have never said one bad thing about him to my son. Children of exes shouldn't be treated like weapons and spies, involving them in a back-and-forth tug-of-war between both of you or asking them to report back after they visit your ex and then "debrief" them when they come home. That puts kids in a terrible position of having to choose "sides," and that's totally unfair and damaging to their psyches. So if you and your ex have children, then at least put some effort into appearing friendly, even if you hate each other's guts. The two of you got along well enough once upon a time to have babies, so it's your responsibility to keep a decent attitude toward your ex, even if you have to fake it. Suck it up, take one for the team and SMILE, even if it kills you!

Only if you have kids together; I have some exes whom I haven't talked to since we broke up.

Unless, she is Halle Berry, then yes.

it is important when you have kids together.

No it is not important at all to get along with your ex.

Not really... If you wanna hate them, that's perfectly fine.

If there are children involved then yes, for the sake of the children it is important
to remain civil and amicable. Either way it is always better if two can move on without bitterness and unforgiveness. That's not always easy nor the case though. Some people
make it hard for you to forgive them. Walking away without animosity or furthur fighting
is always the wise choice. It is always best to let go if the relationship cannot work.

Very true. It also mean that you managed to go through the breakup and are ready for a new romance

Hey patrick, where have you been ? I haven't heard from you in awhile.
Nice to see you agan. Glad you agree ! It's harder to break free of a relationship
if there are chidren involved because that person is always involved in your life.
A new romance always helps you move on easier and faster. Happy holidays my friend !

With children yes without doesn't matter.

i meant yes,but then again i dont really know for sure, i think its okay... if your friends or something

Ehh...

unless you share custody of kids. Then civility is required.

You need to at least be civil with them. Unless they were abusive then you can get along with them as you watch them rot in jail!

Especially if there are children involved.

No you don't have to, they're your ex for a reason no need to even communicate with them. Unless you have kids together then yes its very important.

Unless you have kids together.

Why are we still on this subject?

YES, ESPECIALLY IF CHILDREN ARE INVOLVED..

Yes, if there are children involved. You don't necessarily have to "get along", but you need to learn to tolerate each other. Children definitely shouldn't see parents fighting, together or not.

If you have children together ...

Yes, especially if there are children involved. The child should not be a pawn for venting anger but a child that needs to be loved by both parents.

Not unless you have kids with them, like in this case.

If there is children Involved,

Yes, but only if there are kids involved. Otherwise, getting along too well with an ex is going to make any future partners of yours suspicious...just sayin'.