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Halle Berry and Gabriel Aubry Reach Truce: Is It Important to Get Along With Your Ex?

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  • lady blue 2012/12/01 09:50:57
    Yes
    lady blue
    +6
    If there are children involved then yes, for the sake of the children it is important
    to remain civil and amicable. Either way it is always better if two can move on without bitterness and unforgiveness. That's not always easy nor the case though. Some people
    make it hard for you to forgive them. Walking away without animosity or furthur fighting
    is always the wise choice. It is always best to let go if the relationship cannot work.

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  • RKBlack 2012/12/04 12:48:55
    No
    RKBlack
    I think if children are involved then yes. It makes it easier. But in any other case exes should stay civil (just to avoid the "drama factor"), but there is no necessity to "get along".
  • JustMe 2012/12/04 03:08:33
    Yes
    JustMe
    it saves on the drama
  • Ashley 2012/12/03 14:01:01
    Yes
    Ashley
    Yes, especially when you have children.
  • stevmackey 2012/12/03 11:21:11
    Yes
    stevmackey
    It is a lot cheaper than divorce.
  • musiclover92 2012/12/02 23:03:30
    No
    musiclover92
    only if they have a child together
  • Lovita 2012/12/02 08:17:24
    Yes
    Lovita
    +1
    Yes! Especially if you have a child together!
  • ☆stillthe12c☆ 2012/12/02 03:39:18
    No
    ☆stillthe12c☆
    +2
    You do not have to get along, but both need to be reasonable.
  • NYCbrit 2012/12/01 21:46:57
    Yes
    NYCbrit
    +1
    When a child is involved it's essential.
  • Elz 2012/12/01 21:11:19
    Yes
    Elz
    if the couple was married and had kids or if one of the exes were dying then one should depend on another. then sure otherwise it really doesnt matter.
  • Ron in Oregon 2012/12/01 21:04:22
    No
    Ron in Oregon
    Hell no!
    I wanted to slap her in the face but she went and died before I had the chance.
  • Tattoo Nana 2012/12/01 18:22:04
    Yes
    Tattoo Nana
    +1
    I feel that if children are involved, it is really important to try to get along, no matter how hard it may be. When I got my divorce, I got the kids and he would slide through at his convenience. He made it VERY hard for me not to say ugly things about him to the kids, but I always made sure that whatever opinion they would have of their dad would be just that, THEIR opinion. I would lie to cover for why he didn't show up, buy gifts and put his name on them on Holidays etc.

    My children are now grown, and they see their father for what he is,and I am confident about the fact that i didn't influence them at all. I HATE it when adults use their children as pawns in a game. My ex and I sat down and reminded each other that at one point we did like each other and we needed to go back to that and become friends again, in order for the kids to not harbor ill feelings towards either of us, although he sure made it hard for me to not say the truth, I really didn't want to influence my kids in any way regarding their father.

    My twin sons intend to change their last name in the near future they are that disgruntled with their father. And I still tell my kids regularly that their relationship with their dad is just that - THEIR relationship and that I will support them in whatever they do.
  • Fashionable60s 2012/12/01 18:12:41
    Yes
    Fashionable60s
    +1
    Especially if there are children involved. Their happiness and well being should trump the anger that may have transpired between the parents. They have to raise mentally healthy children and be involved throughout the developmental years.
  • TerryAgee 2012/12/01 18:11:46
    No
    TerryAgee
    If it work under the same roof, why would work apart?
  • Rodimus Knight 2012/12/01 14:58:52
    Yes
    Rodimus Knight
    +1
    Especially when the 2 of you have kids
  • Tigger Too 2012/12/01 14:17:09
    Yes
    Tigger Too
    +1
    If the relationship consisted of only you and your ex, then not only isn't it necessary to get along, you don't really need to see or talk to each other ever again, should you so choose. However, if children are involved, it is IMPERATIVE that both parties get along. At the very least, you and your ex should maintain a cordial and pleasant attitude, even if you detest each other, and especially in front of the kids. Since my ex-husband and I divorced, although I couldn't stand him for a long time afterward, I have never said one bad thing about him to my son. Children of exes shouldn't be treated like weapons and spies, involving them in a back-and-forth tug-of-war between both of you or asking them to report back after they visit your ex and then "debrief" them when they come home. That puts kids in a terrible position of having to choose "sides," and that's totally unfair and damaging to their psyches. So if you and your ex have children, then at least put some effort into appearing friendly, even if you hate each other's guts. The two of you got along well enough once upon a time to have babies, so it's your responsibility to keep a decent attitude toward your ex, even if you have to fake it. Suck it up, take one for the team and SMILE, even if it kills you!
  • Christopher Kirchen 2012/12/01 14:17:03
    No
    Christopher Kirchen
    Only if you have kids together; I have some exes whom I haven't talked to since we broke up.
  • beernbugs 2012/12/01 14:00:37
    No
    beernbugs
    Unless, she is Halle Berry, then yes.
  • Romygirl 2012/12/01 11:28:10
    Yes
    Romygirl
    +2
    it is important when you have kids together.
  • ed 2012/12/01 10:28:32
    No
    ed
    No it is not important at all to get along with your ex.
  • Harley Squiggles the God \(... 2012/12/01 09:57:24
    No
    Harley Squiggles the God \(#o#)/
    Not really... If you wanna hate them, that's perfectly fine.
  • lady blue 2012/12/01 09:50:57
    Yes
    lady blue
    +6
    If there are children involved then yes, for the sake of the children it is important
    to remain civil and amicable. Either way it is always better if two can move on without bitterness and unforgiveness. That's not always easy nor the case though. Some people
    make it hard for you to forgive them. Walking away without animosity or furthur fighting
    is always the wise choice. It is always best to let go if the relationship cannot work.
  • patrick... lady blue 2012/12/21 19:18:37
    patrick.bonacoscia
    +1
    Very true. It also mean that you managed to go through the breakup and are ready for a new romance
  • lady blue patrick... 2012/12/21 22:54:24
    lady blue
    Hey patrick, where have you been ? I haven't heard from you in awhile.
    Nice to see you agan. Glad you agree ! It's harder to break free of a relationship
    if there are chidren involved because that person is always involved in your life.
    A new romance always helps you move on easier and faster. Happy holidays my friend !
  • William Gill~PWCM~JLA 2012/12/01 08:36:18
    Yes
    William Gill~PWCM~JLA
    +1
    With children yes without doesn't matter.
  • Rachel Limburg 2012/12/01 07:21:15
    No
    Rachel Limburg
    +1
    i meant yes,but then again i dont really know for sure, i think its okay... if your friends or something
  • Kiki,Pixie,Worm 2012/12/01 06:47:53
    No
    Kiki,Pixie,Worm
    Ehh...
  • S* 2012/12/01 06:20:39
    No
    S*
    unless you share custody of kids. Then civility is required.
  • DeejaySpaniel 2012/12/01 06:05:22
    Yes
    DeejaySpaniel
    You need to at least be civil with them. Unless they were abusive then you can get along with them as you watch them rot in jail!
  • kitkat42 2012/12/01 06:00:58
    Yes
    kitkat42
    +1
    Especially if there are children involved.
  • Katt 2012/12/01 05:59:35
    No
    Katt
    +1
    No you don't have to, they're your ex for a reason no need to even communicate with them. Unless you have kids together then yes its very important.
  • Luxxie 2012/12/01 05:30:17
    No
    Luxxie
    Unless you have kids together.
  • Artisan Rose ☽✪☾☥ 2012/12/01 05:15:36
    No
    Artisan Rose ☽✪☾☥
    Why are we still on this subject?
  • MOMMA THOMAS 2012/12/01 04:57:11
    Yes
    MOMMA THOMAS
    +1
    YES, ESPECIALLY IF CHILDREN ARE INVOLVED..
  • Lee 2012/12/01 04:48:30
    Yes
    Lee
    +1
    Yes, if there are children involved. You don't necessarily have to "get along", but you need to learn to tolerate each other. Children definitely shouldn't see parents fighting, together or not.
  • eliminator_90 2012/12/01 04:46:02
    Yes
    eliminator_90
    +1
    If you have children together ...
  • Barbara Hasler 2012/12/01 04:39:25
    Yes
    Barbara Hasler
    +1
    Yes, especially if there are children involved. The child should not be a pawn for venting anger but a child that needs to be loved by both parents.
  • heartsonfire 2012/12/01 04:36:21
    No
    heartsonfire
    +1
    Not unless you have kids with them, like in this case.
  • CAptain Morgan 2012/12/01 04:35:21 (edited)
  • Jdogg 2012/12/01 04:30:55
    Yes
    Jdogg
    +1
    If there is children Involved,
  • MissAdventure 2012/12/01 04:15:34
    Yes
    MissAdventure
    Yes, but only if there are kids involved. Otherwise, getting along too well with an ex is going to make any future partners of yours suspicious...just sayin'.

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