Do You Think Women Should Change Their Names When They Get Married?

If she wants to change it she can. If not don't. Simple enough for me.

Yes, for a few reasons, one I was proud to be part of my hubs family and wanted the name, two it's SO much easier, for insurance forms, mortgage signature, utility bills, children and all of their documents from birth to school....anything that involves shared responsibility, for the names to match.

i think when women change their name they lose apart of their past life

Unconditional love.
My better half decided to keep her maiden name.

I think it is up to the individual.

i would seriously like to know how many votes were by women and how many were by men. Also, the age groups of the people who voted. I think that would be really worth knowing on this topic in particular.

Be happy to oblige, female, 41, married almost 17 years, together for 22yrs. Voted Yes.

No because if it doesn't last it's hard to get your maiden name back and it's expensive plus if your a only child it's your obligation to carry on the family name.

You assume the marriage would probably not last? Then why get married?
Marriage creates the nucleus of a family. I want(ed) to create a family that will last generations.
So, if you have children, whose children do you have? Are they members of your husbunds family or yours?
It's the wife responibility to provide children to carry on her husbunds family line.

What about the wife's own family line? Those kids belong to her family just as much as his.

Yes, they are related. But no, the children are of the fathers "clan' or family.
I'm thinking of a RealLife divorced family with two children, the wife takes custody. The wife remarries and has two more children.
The two younger children inherit from her and her new husband. The older two children only stand to inherit from their divorced father.

The wife has the children growing inside for nine months doing all sorts of horrifying things to her body (like crushing her organs, kicking her, adding chemicals to her body that cause tumors to grow, etc.), she is the one who goes through hours of painful labour which can last for days sometimes, she is the one who risks her life giving birth to them, and she's the one who has to shove them out of her body which can cause irreversible damage. All the husband has to do is orgasm. With that in mind, I would say the woman actually has more right to the call the children part her "clan" or family over the father's.

I know several real life mixed families where the kids for the first marriage inherited just as much as the kids from the second. Why do you think the mother wouldn't leave her first two children anything?

She might say " You two will inherit from your father, so everything has been left to your half brothers". That too is RL.
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Among my people the wife is considered adopted
into the husbands family and assumes the family name. And it works out fine for us.

I'm sorry child birth is so onerus. Perhaps futher evolution will improve things?
It's really hard on us too you know. I mean really hard.
I confess I do like being a man, the plumbing is neater and we get the better lovers! Women are fantastic!
On Barsoom the women laid eggs and left them in a incubator when adventuring with their husbands. I always thought that was such a cool solution :).

I don't mind it. Up to the person to decide also.

I say it's up to the individual......

No it pisses me off

Your all about being a individual? Then I would think just don't get married. We wanted to create a family when we got married, so we are all the "Watson family" including dogs. When we bought a new VW for my wife she ordered a personal license plate "VW4MrsW"

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I don't think it's chauvinistic but if my woman wants my last name then she can take it. If she doesn't, then that's fine by me. If anything should get the boot, it's marriage itself. Marriage is a religious institution that promotes the subjugation of women. Don't blame the men, blame the religion that said men must be in charge. I am indeed a man in case you couldn't figure that out.

No one here regards mariage as chauvinistic, maybe its your subculture?

Probably should keep it. Half of all marriages end in divorce so that saves a lot of paperwork. Until the 14th century, nobody had last names.

It is up the woman....my wife decided to use both last names...support her decision..bark

It's something so old that I'd rather it not die out.

And

I hate my last name. A lot. I'll gladly take up my boyfriends last name.
Funny thing is though, our initials are the same, just in a oppiset order. Mine K S his S K

Man and wife are suppose to become one in the sight of God....it's nice if they also share the same last name.

I find hyphens stupid, that and I don't care for my last name.

My honeys name is horrendous, I like mine muuuuuuuch better.

I would be proud to wear my husband's name.

how about letting women choose? no getting rid of it...or how about perhaps a husband changing his name now THAT would be truley progressive.

That's actually possible. You can go to court and get your name changed to your wife's name.

hmm lol

agreed! That would make my hubby a Grant....

Yea but then you would probably take him for Granted"

**GIGGLE!**

Actually, it really doesn't matter either way, since either changing it or keeping it is a symbol of patriarchy. If you keep your maiden name, it's saying that you are your father's property, whereas if you change it, you're your husband's property. Damned if you do, damned if you don't sort of thing.

Not everything has to be viewed through a negative prism.

If a woman decides to keep her given name it means shes confident in who she is as an individual.

If a woman takes her husbands name that means she enjoys the tradition and wants to become a tighter family unit with the person she chose to love.

No harm no foul either way.

True. I think I'll end up taking my husband's last name.

Anywhere close to an engagement?

Hmm... maybe a year or two away, at the rate my relationship is going, plus the fact that I'm still in college :P

The only advice I will ever give anyone is wait until after college. Really, I'd also say give it a year or so after that so you can settle in to post grad life.

I waited too long. I met my wife in high school and we stayed together through college - she always wanted to get engaged and get married. But I wanted to wait. We moved in together after college and settled into careers. But that helped in a lot of ways, giving us a firm starting point. I just wish I had asked a few years earlier than I did - I sort of grew comfortable with where we were.

Weddings are so much fun!

Oh yes, definitely! My parents got married in college (my mom was 17, my dad was 20) and it took my mom 8 years to get her bachelor's degree.

Is a son his father's property when he keeps his name too?