Do You Think Women Should Change Their Names When They Get Married?

by ABCnews.com Posted 2011/02/08 21:13:58

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LadyDi75115 2011/02/09 06:29:30

Yes. It’s a time-honored tradition.

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I would be proud to wear my husband's name.
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CS9 2012/02/10 17:44:46

Yes. It’s a time-honored tradition.

Yes. Don't marry a man if you don't want his name.

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Megan Geil-Crader 2011/11/02 20:15:49

No. It’s a chauvinistic throwback that’s got to go!

It takes alot of time and money. I love my last name and its a way to stay connected to my past

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Megan Blakey 2011/09/21 18:06:21

No. It’s a chauvinistic throwback that’s got to go!

Where is the "It should be her and her mates choice" answer?

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pomalovrazja 2011/09/20 23:57:59

Yes. It’s a time-honored tradition.

yes

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music7car 2011/09/16 15:04:04

No. It’s a chauvinistic throwback that’s got to go!

Actually I want to see (in the future, or in other words when I get a fiancé) if I'll be able to get my husband to change his name to mine!
Cauze there's no way I'm leaving my own !!! : /

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2011/09/15 03:56:03

Yes. It’s a time-honored tradition.

It is up to the couple, I would prefer to take a husband's name proudly. There is always the pompous sounding double last name hyphen-slash :)

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Todd *RP 2012* 2011/09/12 22:30:32

Yes. It’s a time-honored tradition.

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Unless they don't want to.
I've got a buddy who hates his father with a purple passion. He's planing to change his last name to hers if they get married.

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funmbi 2011/09/12 22:30:02

No. It’s a chauvinistic throwback that’s got to go!

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a name is a name it really doesnt matter seriously

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wqerwqerwe 2011/09/12 20:31:55

Yes. It’s a time-honored tradition.

Its part of becoming a family. Its a part of our culture and a way to show your respect for your husband. I don't know if I would marry a woman who wouldn't take my name. It would always come between us and the children.

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Onanong C. 2011/08/02 23:43:23

No. It’s a chauvinistic throwback that’s got to go!

I'm proud to be myself and I'm proud of my man.

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Squirt1 2011/07/13 01:18:18 (edited)
Nokkenbuer 2011/05/13 02:04:14

Yes. It’s a time-honored tradition.

It's really up to the couple. I feel women should take their husband's name and many feel it an honor to do so, but it's up to the two getting married. I believe in equality, but I also feel that tradition should live on.

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gkirmani 2011/04/25 11:55:46

No. It’s a chauvinistic throwback that’s got to go!

I dont support the idea. Why her identy be lost. I totally oppose the idea of playing with the individuality of a women before or after marriage.......why should she. why men dont change.

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FATEEN 2011/04/21 19:05:39 (edited)

No. It’s a chauvinistic throwback that’s got to go!

This is primarily a European custom.
It's important that when you are tracing the geneology of a woman that when she is married two or three times she could ge lost in this geneology tracking.

Women have to go through alot after a divorce because she has all of her information in her husbands name.

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The Missus JR 2011/02/25 22:59:40

No. It’s a chauvinistic throwback that’s got to go!

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Hubby and I have been married 7 years and I kept my maiden name. Our daughter has my last name as a middle name and his for her last name. It works out perfectly fine for us.

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LarryStylinson 2011/02/18 21:30:59

No. It’s a chauvinistic throwback that’s got to go!

actually mine is none of the above if they are normal yes but if they are famous like carrie underwood then no espeshily cuz there's already another carrie fisher in holywood

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Terran Sherwood 2011/02/16 05:37:04

Yes. It’s a time-honored tradition.

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To me, it signifies the two becoming one. One name, one life together, a reminder that they are in it forever.

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jade 2011/02/09 22:46:30

No. It’s a chauvinistic throwback that’s got to go!

If they want to change there name they should be able to and vise-versa

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lauren dull 2011/02/09 22:46:03

Yes. It’s a time-honored tradition.

I chose to do so, but it is a choice .

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TombstoneJim 2011/02/09 22:37:40

Yes. It’s a time-honored tradition.

Been married 42 years to Mrs Norris and it works fine

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melly~thwarting Satan since... 2011/02/09 22:06:10

No. It’s a chauvinistic throwback that’s got to go!

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Depends upon the last name, honestly. If it goes with my name well, I'm down.

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Bozette to melly~t... 2011/02/09 22:11:31

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I used to date a guy with a truly HORRIBLE last name...if we had married, I may have bucked tradition. LOL

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Bozette 2011/02/09 21:46:46

Yes. It’s a time-honored tradition.

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While others are free to do as they please, personally I like the tradition. I see where some are saying a woman loses her identity by taking her husband's name. I don't agree. I am not so shallow or insecure that my identity hinges upon my last name.

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Smokey 2011/02/09 21:43:03

Yes. It’s a time-honored tradition.

I don't think it's chauvinistic to want your spouse to take on your last name. However, it's a choice for everyone to make. My wife was soooooooooo happy to change her last name so that we can become ONE.

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Tim 2011/02/09 20:26:15

No. It’s a chauvinistic throwback that’s got to go!

A chauvenistic throwback like alimony and automatically getting half of his stuff when it's over. None of these 'tradtidions' speak to the independence of women and any woman that sinks to that level should take his name as well.

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Epistemically Justified -- BN7 2011/02/09 20:24:18

No. It’s a chauvinistic throwback that’s got to go!

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Not just no, but hell no for me!

I'm keeping my name as it is -- it's the name written on all of my diplomas, articles, and published research. I'm not giving it up just because I choose to get married. Also, if family unity is that important to him (that he, I and our children all have the same last name) HE is free to change his to match mine, if he likes.

I'm not sure that it's chauvinistic, but it is an old tradition that doesn't have a place in my life.

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PTW2 "P... to Epistem... 2011/02/09 20:46:00

Heard of hyphenating a name before? Not that you will ever need to do it , but if your lucky enough to land a guy then it wouldn't be a problem to keep your last name as well as take his.

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Epistem... to PTW2 "P... 2011/02/09 20:47:12

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I don't have any children (yet) but my fiance and I have discussed hyphenating their last name to represent both parent's names.

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Smokey to Epistem... 2011/02/09 21:49:40

Hello Home Girl,

I live in Lorton. My wife was so happy to change her last name. Why wouldn't you be?

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Epistem... to Smokey 2011/02/09 21:56:39

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Hey Smokey.

I'm not saying that your wife is wrong, and I don't think you're a chauvanist for being happy to share your last name with her (I want to make that clear, I don't look down on women who change their name).

I'm just saying (loudly, I guess) that it's not for me. I work in engineering research -- a male dominated field -- and worked hard for my education and status. I don't want to abandon the name I've made known professionally.

So, while I'm happy to marry my guy and share my home with him, I'm not giving up or editing my name just because we've chosen to make vows of love together.

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Smokey to Epistem... 2011/02/10 00:35:34

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Engineering research huh? Wow! If my wife were famous, I'd change my last name. :)

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Ssgtwaldo 2011/02/09 20:14:38

Yes. It’s a time-honored tradition.

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It's a tradition that needs to remain. Don't like it don't get married just live together... It's also a sign of respect for the person you are suppose to love...
"Chauvinistic throwback" my ass! It's Just more progressive BS!

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Shelo to Ssgtwaldo 2011/02/09 20:35:51

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Yeah. A man can show respect to the woman he loves by taking on her name when they get married.

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Ssgtwaldo to Shelo 2011/02/09 20:48:00

Then were back to a tradition as old as Christ. Most consider the man the head of the house hold. My wife of 38 years has no problem with it at all. I wonder why you do?

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Spookey R to Ssgtwaldo 2011/09/14 02:16:10

Perhaps your wife doesn't have a problem with is bc she is spineless & you have made her that way?!

It's a tradition that goes back however many hundred's of year's bc chauvinism has been around for thousand's of year's, at least! You have the right to believe what you want, more or less, but, if ppl don't like it they'll still get married & they'll take her name or they won't change anybodies name and you and those that think similarly can piss off...

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Ssgtwaldo to Spookey R 2011/09/14 21:28:47
Spookey R to Ssgtwaldo 2011/09/27 23:51:44

You can tell me that your wife is Michele Bachmann, the heroine of conservative America and I will care just as much, and I will believe you just as much, given that, as I apparently do that, as you've said, she's in the Air Force.

Do tell tho; what about my comment is hateful!? What is it about my comment that makes me a hateful person??!

You are using an ad hominem attack to prop yourself up bc you FAILED so miserably at making everyone else cower under your misogynistic whimpering...

Piss off and go to Hell!

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Ssgtwaldo to Spookey R 2011/09/28 02:43:50 (edited)
Lanikai 2011/02/09 20:07:07

Yes. It’s a time-honored tradition.

But I am a traditional sort.

I think it is the individuals choice.

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