Are You Submissive?

Well, Yes and No. Submission is something I naturally fall into...but when he doens't take control, then hell, I will. And of course there are different levels of submission...from not so extreme to very extreme. I'm really not sure what I am. I'm one of those girls that are very "confident" and "intimidating"...so no men have really seen what I'm really like.. Nice question!

Not completely, but I'm learning.

I've been told I'm a gentle master.....it works...been fun....

I switch, but generally becoming more domme. Though it is still nice to just switch off and go with the flow now and then ;-)

somewhat

Unfortunately, Im quite submissive to my boyfriend.

I'm not dominant either, but in the bedroom my laziness is possibly mistaken for submission.

I'm a switch

BDSM is not abuse, it's completely about consent and safety.

I'm sorry you had such bad experiences. But it is a very complex and often contradictory subject. Calling people "weirdos" because of sexual proclivities is judgmental and inaccurate in terms of current medical and psychological thinking.

You did the "whole" BDSM thing? Wow that must have taken years.

I don't know anyone in the scene, or in the most recent studies I have read, that plays the "misunderstood" card.

As for growing out of it, good for you if that's what suits your needs best. But please don't look down on others :-)

"One must handle these affairs with an open mind, a willingness to learn, to show compassion, but not let our emotions get the better of us."

Then you have no real experience of BDSM. Like I said it's a very complex subject, not something you can explain with self righteous soundbites.

As I said I a sorry for your experience of sexual abuse, my heart feels for you.
Yes there are crazies who use BDSM as facade for abuse, that's why we form communities to keep them out. "Breath play" is a very dangerous practice and is generally discouraged as an unsafe practice. And I agree , consent doesn't apply to life threatening "games".
Truly you have my sympathies <3

Not even the Tea Party bloke ??

And doms who don't know a caring sub from a toy doll :-(

Well I took it from your profile!

I can be.

I wouldn't say that I'm submissive, but I'm not really dominant either. With my husband, we try to keep the power in the house fairly well-balanced. I'm not ultra passive, but I don't want to be incredibly aggressive, either. I don't want my husband to dread coming home to his wife after work because I'm such an abrasive witch. That would suck.

Only when and if I want to be. :)

Sexually, definitely not. In terms of life and relationships in general, I have been accused of being too passive when I should not be, but not enough to warrant self-evaluating that as the theme of my personal interactions.

Certainly people seem to mistake being polite and showing common courtesy (such a misnomer there...) as being submissive, but generally they don't continue to make that mistake after they've been clubbed for trying to take liberties or otherwise exploit me.

And that's really the problem I have with the very idea of being submissive, it triggers all of my warning bells about exploitation in addition to feeding into my personal baggage from having to have constantly fought against my brothers when we were small children and wont to be violent on one another.

Not exactly an appealing proposition to be tied up by someone when it evokes memories of being ganged up on, beaten up, and then stuffed between couch cushions while a gaggle of people tried to crush you with their combined body weight.

About the only thing I like about Objectivism is the line "No Gods or Kings. Only man."

I have problems with authority.

Depends on the situation or position? ;)

I've played both Dom and Sub roles but in a general sense I'm not submissive at all.

Aint No pushover

Ah, good point. Submissive does not mean doormat :-)

no

I'm dominant....

LMAO...NOPE!!!