Are Video Games Good for Relationships?

I'm no gamer- never had them as a kid so I can't as a 19-year-old- but my husband is great at them. So, even though the games I'd play with him are piddly, we still have great amounts of fun. I think, even if the stereotyped situation were true, it's the girl's fault for not joining in, or at least understanding that boys are NOT girls, that they need to have a bit of shoot-'em-up fun in their lives.

I don't think so because the time spent causes time to fly by and unless you're into video games, to have someone play them all day rather than do something, talk, eat go out anything, really hurts the one on one relationship.

Until you find that you like it, too :D Then you're all sweet! Sometimes females (and I'm not being sexist because I'm damning my own gender!) can be too controlling, ever noticed that? They can expect guys to do everything they don't want to do because they are "the weaker species", but when that is pointed out, they deny it with excuses and make his life a misery. That's not love, that's discrimination and racism against guys.

I believe the word your looking for is prejudice? I agree. Y'know as a gamer girl.

I met my current girlfriend (for lack of a better word) in an on-line game.

Yes see thats great!!You guys should be great together!!NON gamers just wouldnt get it!?

Just one more thing to waste time and energy. I would rather converse with a date.

Why is this even a question? Video games, movies & especially television are not good for relationships. Sure, they can spur talking points if BOTH people are into it. However, playing side by side doesn't mean that you are having a meaningful relationship. Numbly watching tv doesn't mean you are "together". And don't even get me started on gamers who play HOURS on end...

Feel sorry for your man!

as long as both partners find a game they both like and if they don't spend too much time playing it. we don't wanna kill more brain cells than needed, do we?

Unless you are going to spend your entire life in a video game.

If both of them like playing video games, then it can be a lot of fun. But, if the other person doesn't really like to play video games, then it can hurt their relationship.

My husband playing them all the time causes fights. I feel like his number one priority should be spending time with me and our son, not playing video games

Yes, if both like them and no if one of them does not, it can hurt the relationship!!!!

My girlfriend and i play all the time

I love playing games that have a good story/plot line. It is more fun for me and my hubby to play something like Witcher or Dragon Age together than go to the movies. It promotes cooperation and lets us practice our conflict resolution skills.

Me and my boyfriend can sit down and play video games but that doesn't mean the game is what I want to play.

as long as it not like 5 hours a day

If both the boyfriend and girlfriend plays video games, are if one of them plays video games and the person wants to play to make their love one happy than my answer is yes.

If only one person is obsessed with playing all day or night it robs the significant other of what could be a nice time together. The s/o may crave that attention and may respond if someone else offers it...

i don 't prefer

As long as both people know it's not just about competing then it's great fun and a wonderful way to see the way people really are. I think it helps relationships to be formed on friendships!

Alt answer needed badly on this one. It really depends on the couple involved, their emotional stability, maturity, level of commitment to each other and level of willingness to sacrifice for one another so that they can enjoy activities together and separately.

I'm a pretty heavy gamer but there is absolutely no one and/or nothing on this earth that means more to me than my wife. PERIOD. We spend as much time together as possible whether its spending time together as a family with the kids, playing Guitar Hero after the kids go to bed, watching a movie together, just hanging out together talking about anything and sharing our thoughts or spending our time doing..other...marital related activities ;) , but we also have our own separate activities that we enjoy. The other tries to participate when ever we can, but for the most part those are our private activities and we support each others enjoyment of those.

She has surprised me with several Halo games (2 Spec Ed, 3: Legendary, Reach: Legendary), all the Gears of War games and the newest Mortal Kombat: Kollectors Edition just to name a few, and she understands when I get wrapped up in it and play it for several hours at a time.

Like-wise, I understand when she gets wrapped up for hours in her activities and I do what I can to help her enjoy them; whether its purchasing something to help her in one or staying out of her way so she can focus on what shes doing.

It depends if they both like the the game if so they can play it together and develop a close bond

only if they both play

Gaming detracts from quality time that should be spent on the relationship. A relationship has many facets that often get neglected by the gamer that ultimately affect the quality of the relationship. If you are jeopardizing your job, sleep, health, any relationships that have/had meaning or other areas of your life and gaming is the source, then you have your answer.

The only time video games are good for a relationship is if the relationship is already very healthy and the games are played TOGETHER!! Video games are a distraction from reality and must be enjoyed together or somebody starts feeling alone in the relationship. There is a very fine line between enjoying video games and being addicted to video games. Computer games as well...

Gaming is not bad in itself. Addiction is bad. If a person does little but play games all day they May be fostering an additive behavior. A little every day may be ok. A lot every day to the exclusion of getting out and doing something else may not be good. That goes for parents too. I know some parents with children they spend little time with because the parent is playing games all the time they are home. I realize some may play video games with their children, some are not with their children because of video games. It goes both ways. Just spend more time with each other doing different things.

Not all the time, because my brother in law and sister used to play games together, but then in the end they would start to fight, and that is obviously not good for a relationship. Sometimes it can be good if your gaming skills are the same and you think the same as you play.

My wife and I play console cames and we play World of warcraft together. it's been the one thing we've been able to do together even with the tight money situation and it's kept us from being at each other's throats 24/7 due to cabin fever.

Its a wonderful part of mine and my mans relationship. We have a great time and I love that we bond over games!

AS long at the games are done in fun and together.

Are we talking romantic relationships here? Sex is definitely more important than video games. MUCH more important!

Playing together is good.

Give me a break. Most games are 1 player and it gets old having to sit and watch the other person play the game all the time.

Co-op video games can definitely be a bonding experience. My wife will routinely play Resident Evil 5 or Gears of War with me co-operatively to finish
missions. We have to communicate with each other
and help one another ALOT. It gives us both a strong feeling of accomplishment when done and a great experience. It's MUCH more interactive than just dinner and a movie lol- cost less too!

But only when you play them as two human players. If anyone finds any games out there designed for two or more players to play in cooperation, that would be best of all. Imagine a "Top Gun" game for two human pilots against two computer pilots, for example.

I have met some very good friends through Slingo and other gaming websites. Therefore I can say from experience that if you share an interest in the same games, as well as an interest in each other (whether it's platonic or otherwise), then video games can be one of the things that can actually strengthen a relationship.

Great way to prove that not only men love video games. It's another activity to bond over.

You need an alt answer for this one.
Games can crush a perfectly good relationship.
Women watch sports now because the majority of men are in places watching a game. it's a great way for them to hook up.
You go and chunk in video games, you take it too far.

Imagine all of the fat chicks out there that add every single sports team to their facebook favorites (so they can have something in common) meeting the man of her dreams and he hates sports but loves games... now she has to throw all of that crap she forced herself to learn, away.
He would not be worth it. She has her mind set on "what a man should be"
LOL
People are crazy.