Andrew Garfield Says He Had 'Connection' With Co-Star (and Now GF) Emma Stone: Is Chemistry the Most Important Part of Love?

by The Big Question Posted 2012/06/14 00:06:19

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JCLadybug 2012/06/14 04:22:18 (edited)

No

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Well if you want to get technical you have to have chemistry to do anything........but that is just my inner chemist talking (I'm a bio-organic chemist)

But in reference to relationships, I think you need to have some chemistry, but other things are more important. Communication, mutual respect, willing to make sacrifices for the other...are much more important in the long run than chemistry. There are many couples that have great chemistry/passion but can't make it work as a couple. I also wouldn't call my husband and mine understanding/"clicking" for the other, chemistry. I call that knowing a person and getting along well. I get along well/click with many guys friends that I have zero chemistry with. Chemistry to me is the passion you share with another person and this is not the most important part of the relationship.
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TasselLady 2012/06/14 20:54:25

No

I know many people who have had chemistry at the beginning and quickly lost it once they realized who they were with were GASP!!!! HUMAN BEINGS WITH FLAWS!!!! People have to be willing to accept people for their good and bad points in a relationship. If one expects too much out of the other or has other unrealistic expectations, the whole thing is going to flop. I went through that. I was with a boyfriend years ago who I had major chemistry with. Unfortunately he also liked other women too much, and eventually it broke us up. So don't bank first on chemistry. Make sure you like each other and respect each other first, and being able to communicate with each other before anything else comes into play, or it's going to fizzle out and FAST.

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The Potato Princess 2012/06/14 15:43:27

Yes

Love? Yes. Relationships? No.

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lady blue 2012/06/14 15:03:40

Yes

When two people have chemistry they truly like eachother, they are attracted to
eachother and they bond naturally. They feel like soulmates. Chemistry is a very important ingredient in love. It's a strong connection that brings two people together
and keeps them together for life.

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GLaDOS 2012/06/14 12:13:15 (edited)

Yes

It's certainly important, and quite possibly the most important part of it. If you don't have chemistry, then what do you have? I "mutually respect" my friends, but that doesn't mean I want to date them. Basically, you need chemistry, hopefully along with everything you look for in a friend.

In this instance, "Chemistry" means:
a : a strong mutual attraction, attachment, or sympathy

Mutual attraction, attachment, and sympathy are certainly some of the most important aspects in love.

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beach bum 2012/06/14 10:41:57

Yes

yes

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Miko Mikomiko 2012/06/14 09:46:34

Yes

Chemistry between two people whom have a relationship means that they have a lot in common and they get along. Kinda like, they complement each other and good together.

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Fenabarb 2012/06/14 09:29:07

Yes

and honesty

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Dave The Canuck 2012/06/14 07:00:30

No

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True love runs far deeper than chemistry. In a marriage involving true love, the love continues even after the chemicals that "made" the love subside. If the partners stop loving each other after the chemicals that "made the love" go away, true love was never really there to start with. The most important part of love is commonality, compatibility and the willingness for both partners to understand one another, and adore what their partner does for them.

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GLaDOS to Dave Th... 2012/06/15 00:17:21

Well, seeing as part of the definition of "chemistry" is "strong mutual attraction, attachment, and sympathy," I'd say that it covers at least willingness for both to understand one another, and attachment may help them appreciate what the other does for them.

My parents don't really have "commonality," in fact, they're quite different in how they think about things. But, they've been married for over 30 years.

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katywon 2012/06/14 06:26:22

Yes

It's not the most important part but if you don't have it then you can be miserable. Love and respect and attraction are important. But more important you have to like the person you are with besides love. Sometimes like and love do not go together after the first attraction. If this is untrue then why do we have so many divorces these days?

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vinone 2012/06/14 06:02:39

Yes

"Love is just a chemical by any other name." -Eyedea

So yes, chemistry is important.

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scoobydooby 2012/06/14 04:36:09

Yes

You need chemistry to stay together

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JCLadybug 2012/06/14 04:22:18 (edited)

No

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Well if you want to get technical you have to have chemistry to do anything........but that is just my inner chemist talking (I'm a bio-organic chemist)

But in reference to relationships, I think you need to have some chemistry, but other things are more important. Communication, mutual respect, willing to make sacrifices for the other...are much more important in the long run than chemistry. There are many couples that have great chemistry/passion but can't make it work as a couple. I also wouldn't call my husband and mine understanding/"clicking" for the other, chemistry. I call that knowing a person and getting along well. I get along well/click with many guys friends that I have zero chemistry with. Chemistry to me is the passion you share with another person and this is not the most important part of the relationship.

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GLaDOS to JCLadybug 2012/06/14 12:16:38

By definition:
Chemistry
3. a : a strong mutual attraction, attachment, or sympathy

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JCLadybug to GLaDOS 2012/06/14 18:51:14

So. I think that is important, but it still isn't specific enough to say "clicking" is "chemistry". I still think mutual respect, communication, and willing to make sacrifices is the most important part of a lasting relationship. Lot of people have "chemistry" but can't make it work.

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GLaDOS to JCLadybug 2012/06/15 00:10:30 (edited)

I have mutual respect, the ability to communicate, and am willing to make sacrifices for my friends. >_> That doesn't mean I will be falling in love with them. lol And the question is asking if it's the most important part of love, not relationships.

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JCLadybug to GLaDOS 2012/06/15 01:56:00

If love doesn't last then was it really love? Or rather something else. Part of love is commitment...however you define it.

As a different definition, you probably do love your friends...just only as friends. To you the distinguishing factor is "chemistry", but often to me that is lust. Don't get me wrong, I fell fast and hard for my husband long before we were married, but if we hadn't worked it out, I don't know if I really would have called it love (depending on when it ended).

Lastly, no one knows me like my husband. So like you, I have the same thing (mutual respect, etc.) with my friends, but with my husband all of those aspects are deeper.

Chemistry is an aspect of love (IMO) and is important, but for any great love it has to last and that is not achieved with chemistry.

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GLaDOS to JCLadybug 2012/06/15 02:15:04

Well, "mutual attachment," I would imagine to be commitment.

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JCLadybug to GLaDOS 2012/06/15 12:31:26

So we circle right back to my opinion of other things being more important than chemistry to maintain love/relationship/etc.

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GLaDOS to JCLadybug 2012/06/17 04:40:59 (edited)

Other than strong mutual attachment, attraction, and sympathy? I don't know what else, is necessarily a requirement for romantic love, but, again, I was arguing that it says an important part of [romantic] love, not relationships.

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JCLadybug to GLaDOS 2012/06/18 02:38:49

My point is for love to be real or considered a great love it has to last....which thus means relationship. Otherwise...was it love? (or was it infatuation, etc.). Besides, to maintain the "spark" or chemistry you have to have communication, mutual respect, commitment, etc.

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GLaDOS to JCLadybug 2012/06/22 20:50:46 (edited)

To take a bit from the "Rules of Courtly Love," 'It is well known that love is always either growing or declining.' Love can grow, it can die, it doesn't mean that one that does the first is any greater than the latter. In fact, many great love stories don't last all that well, unless they end, strictly, at, "and they lived happily ever after."

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JCLadybug to GLaDOS 2012/06/23 01:54:29

I don't know if I buy into that in the way its worded. My favorite love stories are those told by couples who are old and have loved each other for 50 years or more. There were tough times, but they stuck it out...b/c the the love was worth it.

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GLaDOS to JCLadybug 2012/06/26 15:46:23

Well, as lovely as those are to listen about, I'm not sure I would read a book about them.

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JCLadybug to GLaDOS 2012/06/26 16:51:46

Yeah but what book deals in the reality of relationships...the ups and downs? There are some but not many, so we can pretty much plant romance/love books as fantasy. Especially most teeny bopper movies/books...they give unrealistic expectations.

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GLaDOS to JCLadybug 2012/07/10 21:29:43

Such is the way of stories that end with "and they lived happily ever after."

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Jorge Enriquez 2012/06/14 04:09:27

Yes

i have a connection with Emma too LOL

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SOUL4REAL 2012/06/14 04:05:42

Yes

This is how you know there is something about that person that click with you both. Chemistry is very important in a love relationship,if there is no chemistry is not going to work!

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Sinister Ken Doll™ 2012/06/14 01:08:12

Yes

chemistry and respect :D
oh and a good connection *wink, wink*

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sally 2012/06/14 00:37:49

Yes

I don't really know how you can connect without chemistry.

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HarleyCharley 2012/06/14 00:13:59

Yes

you have to connect...

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