Yes and no. If the man in the relationship plays the traditional male role then yes. That means more than just working as dad is supposed to be the one doing upkeep on the home rather than calling someone else to do it. He's supposed to fix the car rather than hiring a mechanic. He's supposed to mow the yard and clip the hedges... the manly stuff he'll never be appreciated for anymore than his wife will be appreciated for housework.

But let's face some facts here.

The average working male comes home, flops in a chair and takes over the tv. Note that I said takes over because much of the day he's at work mom has her ass sitting in front of the boob tube maybe doing a little housework inbetween shows. The husband rarely does any of the traditional male roles because he works and pays people to do those things. Likewise, the average housewife pops food into a microwave from a can or freezer which her five year old child could do and the average American home with a homemaker is a pigsty.

The roles of Americans when it comes to their homes are affected by one thing more than anything... depression.

Being a homemaker today is so easy compared to fifty years ago and it in turn was better than fifty years earlier that your average housewife has more free time on her hands. So if she actually does housework on a regular basis, she has little to do beyond that. All the social graces have been lost such as housewives spending time visiting one another so you could find two or three women in a house during the day cleaning and helping one another with the kids. Likewise, what happened to the men working together under the hood of a car, going on hunting trips and so forth? What happened to couples doing ordinary things like inviting one another over for cards, barbeques and orgies (ok the last I tossed in to liven things up lol).

Women or men, someone in each household should be a home maker and someone a financial provider. A woman who wants to be a career person should seek out a husband with no career ambitions to be the home maker. Men can cook and clean as well as any woman, it's just not the role they play typically. It used to be women made fun of a husband trying to clean or cook and messing up. Then increasingly they found that their own daughters, sisters and so forth couldn't cook or clean either so it stopped just being a way to bash men.

So the answer to your question is no, women should not be expected to be the ones doing the housework. But in a society where women are as reluctant as men to have men play the role of home maker, the traditional role still falls on women to do this. Break the stigma of men being homemakers and then you break the traditional stereotype of women being the one's cleaning the house and caring for the children.